Think, Act, Feel Communication Process

structured, quick response, action orientation

Think, Act, Feel individuals centralize themselves in the power of their thoughts and then imagine different actions they could take to make things work. While they are always initially focusing on what they know, outer appearances can be deceiving because they typically act quickly or even impulsively before others even know what is going on. This is because they have to initiate actions to really test out how they feel about any particular choice. Sometimes these actions are aborted before they get very far. Other times, they will have to complete the action before they have enough input as to whether or not this action serves their higher purpose. After they have assessed different actions, they typically develop confidence around a certain way of doing things in each situation. This permits them to get into their feelings and emotions about the success of the endeavor. One way to validated this sequence is how resistant to change, they are. This combination along with Feel, Act, Think are the most resistant to change, particularly if something is already working for them.

Think First individuals are supported when others provide clear, precise information, which allows them to quickly put together the big picture. Their power and passion comes together when they create new ideas to deal with the problems around them. They are enthusiastic when others respond to shared ideas. Their intellectual power shows up in the quality of the questions they ask and the automatic sense of priorities they develop. Wisdom and the ability to meet others without being attached to their thoughts indicate that they are present with themselves. Intensity and unconscious competition indicates that they are fragmented in their intellectual perception of themselves. While they are usually known for their organizational and logic skills, when they deny this ability it fragments their power, making it difficult to accept their own truth.

What Act Second individuals want is others who will not drown them in thoughts and feelings but will follow their lead when they want to experience various options. Unfortunately, many judge them as impulsive because they take action to determine their best choice. Others do not understand that getting into movement allows an Act Second to determine which choices are most effective. Due to the Think First orientation of our society, others have difficulty conceiving how getting into movement can inform them about what is the best choice. Sometimes they can just imagine an option and then get into movement and see how their body responds to it. Other times they try out an option so later they can determine what they feel or think about it. This allows them to build their body wisdom so they can experience a greater range of choices. Typically they feel most vulnerable in their actions and therefore attempt to keep others around them balanced so they will not end up at their effect.

When Feel Last individuals relax and get into their feelings, it allows them to accept the decision they have made. When others understand this, they too will relax because it is just a matter of working out the details. Unfortunately, when they do not understand this, they maintain a state of tension that tends to neutralize their enthusiasm for the choice they have made. While many others may judge them as unsentimental or lacking an emotional connection, the truth of the matter is that they simply want circumstances to be safe enough where they can express themselves emotionally. They tend to make very assertive clear decisions about people, based on the circumstances and their perceived needs. When others attempt to control them based on emotional motivations before they have decided to engage them, this interruption will likely prevent them going forward. When others provide a focused mutual solution that is present in a way that is physically consistent, they feel drawn to complete the process by affirming their point of view.