Inventive Intelligence Tertiary Mental Body Expression

(formerly known as Artisan, Harmonic or Ray 4)

Known as a playmate for others. Our main way to protect ourselves is to distract anyone who gets too close or has the potential to hurt us.  Our sensitivity to others helps us to discern those who are dangerous and we keep our distance from them. Our ability to adapt to unique circumstances makes us able to seem part of any group or situation, particularly when going along minimizes the potential for conflict. As a way of neutralizing anxiety, our capacity to talk about anything, anywhere, is a perfect defense mechanism. Our fluidity seems calming to others, because it is not perceived as sharp, cold, or impersonal. In this way, any outcast with a grudge to fulfill would find us a kindred spirit, where we would maximize the commonalities of the experience rather than the differences.

As Inventive Intelligence on the Mental Body we know how to share our struggle and pain, so that others who could be dangerous would see us as common conspirators. The key process to appreciate is that we do not take offense or quickly polarize because of differences, no matter how bizarre. Instead, different types of people capture our imagination and interest, and we protect ourselves by wanting to engage and see the other person’s point of view. 

Inventive Intelligence Mental Body individuals protect ourselves from problems by having preset distractions that occupy us until a solution occurs to us. What makes this process effective is that it allows time to prioritize problems to determine whether they are worth solving. On the other hand, because this process can take an indeterminate time, people around us do not know when to expect a response. To others it seems that we are avoiding the tough questions, or commitments necessary to move forward. What is actually occurring is that problems cycle through at their own rate and if others want a different response, then others need to spend more time with us because the more time spent with us, the deeper we can go with the problems and therefore our priority in solving the them increases. We learn to ignore creative dissonances going on around us. We can turn off our environmental perceptions or limit them in ways so we don’t take on the stresses and/or biases created in the family dynamic. This is our primary way to protect ourselves from parents who are fighting or who are creatively not aligned. On a positive side we can develop in depth relationships when we are alone with another individual, but this depth diminishes greatly when there is more than one person around. The more people we are interacting with, the less band width we have to deal with complex issues and interdependencies between people. This is why in large groups we need to tune all our sensitivity down.

Our main way to protect ourselves is to distract anyone who gets too close or has the potential to hurt us.  Our sensitivity to others helps us discern those who are dangerous and we keep our distance from them. Our ability to adapt to unique circumstances makes us able to seem part of any group or situation, particularly when going along minimizes the potential for conflict. As a way of neutralizing anxiety, our capacity to talk about anything, anywhere, is a perfect defense mechanism. Our fluidity seems calming to others, because it is not perceived as sharp, cold, or impersonal. In this way, any outcast with a grudge to fulfill would find us a kindred spirit, where we would maximize the commonalities of the experience rather than the differences. As Inventor Mental Bodies we know how to share our struggle and pain, so others who could be dangerous see us as common conspirators. The key process to appreciate is that we do not take offense or quickly polarize because of differences, no matter how bizarre. Instead, different types of people capture our imagination and interest, and we protect ourselves by wanting to engage and see the other person’s point of view.

Our strength comes from our endless discovery of what works. It is empowered by our flexibility and diversity. If we deny our thoughts or intuition (feelings and emotions), we cut ourselves off from our creative power and ability to love. This makes us susceptible to addiction, mindless busywork, self-destructive tendencies and distractions that keep us from moving forward. We instinctively protect ourselves from denial and boredom by creating fantasies in which we live and that others cannot take away from us. We avoid setting time oriented goals. We would rather be surprised at our accomplishments than take the chance of judging ourselves for being distracted in pursuit of a set goal.

We are the most feminine, abstract, and able to see ourselves in any dimension. When called to action, we throw off the shackles of our ambivalence or indecisiveness and find ourselves pursuing the truth at all costs. It is our own imagination and receptivity, which allows us to go beyond any previous frontiers. We work by taking external experiences and making them real within ourselves. For example, observing a bird in flight could help us open to the internal courage it takes to put ourselves out there. The freedom of flight could also be a way to internalize the bird’s experience. One reason we are good at languages is because as we hear others speak we can embody and relate to the entire experience. In other words, when we hear new music, we wonder how we could create the same sound. This capacity to internalize an external experience and then imitate it in order to make it our own reveals the full circle of our gift.

We are able to create solutions that are improvised spontaneously and sometimes without premeditation. These breakthroughs provide a sense of joy and satisfaction that anything can be figured out. These joyful breakthroughs can also compensate for the inherent struggle and stress life seems to bring us. As primary change agents, we embody the paradox of our time. How do we deal with the extremes of hyperactivity and indecisiveness that occur in a constant state of refocusing ourselves in new ways? Our desire for beauty or music captures our creative nature. Having a sense of inner connectedness captures the metaphoric potency of a synthesizing or unifying intelligence making our breakthroughs possible. Many would say it is our ability to bridge or bring together different worlds, which makes us such an integrative experience.

What is clear is that our multi-sensory nature facilitates the use of picture and sound to think beyond our current safe boundaries. It is our playful adventure of putting together seemingly irreconcilable concepts that creates satisfaction for us. Our greatness comes from our fluidity and mobility to see how the differences presented in life are actually a form of higher orderliness. Primary indicators of this type of thinking are unpredictable exploration and an expressive, non-linear, and non-categorical thought process that never goes where others think it will. Surprise, interspersed with irritation as we wonder about the relevance of any particular contribution, is how others identify us. Another indicator is the use of color to organize the thinking and make presentations to others. The core motive is to somehow harmonize all thoughts creating greater peacefulness. The degree to which this occurs is the same degree with which we are able to unify ourselves. When this happens, there is no longer a need to present the opposite of what others see. Finally, the inability to operate within a specific time frame sets us apart.

We are grounded in the aesthetic, visual and imaginative realms. We are able to be dramatic, expressive, spontaneous, playful, and paradoxical without effort. We are more feminine than masculine and driven by strong desires to break out of set ways of thinking. We are not protective of the status quo, because better thoughts are always being developed. We are visually acute, musical, and linguistic in nature. We can be visualized as a pendulum oscillating from side to side, yet always returning to center. This constantly reoccurs, because we gather the best options from the periphery and makes them available to everyone.

Accuracy is not relevant; tone and unique connectivity hold much greater importance. We emphasize strong contrasts for dramatic affect and to illustrate our points. We are extremely flexible and pliant and easily impressed by external circumstances. This impressibility is what makes us sensitive and powerful as change agents. It is also easy for us to become distracted by the many of ways to engage our environment. We operate on five levels simultaneously, making it difficult for others to get our full attention at any time. We are rapid, fast gestalt-oriented thinkers, who develop close rapport with anyone we choose. (But this does not mean we want to stay connected.) Instead, it is our curiosity that allows us to unify with others in their thoughts making us effective at bringing new possibilities to the world.

 

We are most attentive to issues of beauty, where elegant and simple solutions can change the world. We are extremely sensitive to color and tone, which we use to code and organize our thinking. We pursue ideas that bring together competing or conflicted forces so we can operate in unity. We value rugged individualism and stoic indifference more than conforming to the choices of others. Even though we do not focus on factual details, we consider and evaluate all obvious concerns before being willing to make a choice. We need to consider all the issues in relationship to each other (in the larger context) that need to be addressed. We are self-reflective, introspective, and almost obsessively preoccupied by our own way of thinking, which keeps us from becoming bored. We are capable of both analysis and synthesis, but we are more interested in bringing ideas together in new ways. We are free-associating, improvisational, and constantly self-refining. Our interests are determined by our Primary Creative Expression, and may not be wide ranging (depending on this energy).

We are peculiarly abstract. We focus on symbolic images and rely on figurative frameworks for expressing our knowing. Our imagination encourages many kinds of artistic expression, particularly using our hands. We transcend time, which makes it more difficult to follow our thoughts. Instead, we trust that everything will show up when it shows up. We are extremely sensitive to tension and intellectual conflicts, as we try to bring about harmony under all circumstances.

We protect ourselves primarily through distraction, from our lack of confidence and composure. All we need is to withdraw our attention from how others do not accept us, deny how they perceive us and ignore their lack of expectations about us. This creates a wall between us and others where we can live through our own fantasies and never test them under real world conditions. This way can maintain our delusion of being consistently unpredictable and unreliable (pretending never to care how things turn out). In reality we do care and our worry and agitation about how others may not accept us is the proof. While we may hide behind inertia, indolence and procrastination, we actually want to prove our greatness and capacity to contribute. We need to set aside our fears about what others think and focus entirely on how we can best express ourselves. We can also use unexpected opportunities to step into the ring and conquer our fears. Most of all we can start to build a consistent framework to follow through on those things we want.

Mental Body Inventors tend to think outside the box and bring others new perspectives or possibilities that could benefit them. Everything therefore becomes how to capture the attention and impress others with the viability of our concepts. This requires both internal and external frameworks. Anyone who discounts the value of imagination, creativity and/or a sense of adventure had better avoid us. While we love to convince others of the power of our ideas, we do not appreciate interacting with individuals who are overtly biased, fixated or unwilling to think through things in an open way. We are particularly challenged by authoritarian figures that claim their coldness and objectivity make them better decision makers or administrators of the status quo. We also have a distaste for egghead academics who do not apply what they know but instead are satisfied by theory. As harmonic thinkers we want everything to be anchored in personally real experience. That’s why we seek to provide many examples about how things can operate differently.

Individuals who are intellectually limited, non-creative or caught up in intellectual pride are seen as problematic by us. While we don’t appreciate these types, we do realize we have to politically customize our remarks to get others interested. The only question is, do we want to make the effort to do so. What we love are people who have the capacity to deal with disorder and chaos without losing themselves. Anyone who fears change, denies beauty or discounts evolutionary impulses is seen as a counter-productive adversary to our plan. We also hate those who cannot see larger possibilities or acknowledge better outcomes. While we may be attracted to intense experiences, we are sensitive to drama and anxiety and hyper intensity will burn us out. We hate excessive rules and regulations and try to avoid habitual ritualism or any kind of pompous ceremony. We are environmentally sensitive and sensual, and are automatically repulsed by puritanical or repressive judgment that limits Life flow.

At our core we want to be safe in our differences with others. This means we seek partners who can adjust or move with us as we change. The underlying issue is if it’s not safe for us we need to keep people away from us to avoid being hurt. This leads us to fixate on differences and ignore similarities. As long as there are significant differences that we can accept in each other everything is alright. At the same time being more, better, or different is actually one of the best ways we have to separate and differentiate ourselves from them. We build a sense of self importance by being different causing us to be seen or valued less by our partner. When we’re not affirmed by others we get caught in our fear that we won’t be loved, especially because of our differences. This means we can vacillate between looking for love through differences to switching over to using differences to facilitate differentiation. As a result, others rarely know where we are in the moment and what to do to support us in our growth.

Sometimes, we like to present ourselves as open, undetermined or confused so we won’t have to be responsible for communicating what is going on with us. Alternatively, we act indifferent so we establish the expectation that they should have no expectations about us. Mostly we do this to protect ourselves from being rejected or made a scapegoat for the needs of others. The way out of these fears is to come to accept the unusualness of our way of operating and to be able to tell the truth about the differences and similarities without being reactive. Thus enabling us to be able to understand how both differences and similarities can help us become more conscious human beings. The first step in this process is to really focus on the similarities and not be fearful that they will entangle or engulf us. It also supports us to love ourselves as we are and not define our self in terms of others.

Energetically, we are incredibly diverse. We are lead by our mental focus or mental capacity (which is 40%). Although similar to Compassionate Intelligence in that we have a high degree of Intuition, Inventive Intelligence individuals have double the amount of Thoughts (40%). Having 15% focus on Emotions, 10% focus on Feelings, and 10% focus on Sensations, we are not as grounded in our Feelings as a Compassionate Intelligence individual. The effect of this is that we are more detached and more wide-ranging in our approach. While this openness has the effect of empowering us to think about anything with great clarity, it also can make us extremely impressionable, never forgetting how people put us down. The remaining 25% is focused on the Intuitive sensing of how to know some external experience in an internal way. Our strength comes from our endless discovery of what works. It is empowered by our flexibility and diversity. If we deny our Thoughts or Intuition (Feelings or Emotions), we cut ourselves off from our creative power and ability to love. This makes us susceptible to addiction, mindless busywork, and self-destructive tendencies. We instinctively protect ourselves from denial and boredom by creating fantasies in which we live and that others cannot take away from us. 

We are the most feminine, abstract, and able to see ourselves in any dimension. This means that while we can be the most self-deceptive by convincing ourselves that it is something that it is not, we are also able to see what it is hiding from us. When called to action, we throw off the shackles of our ambivalence or indecisiveness and find ourselves pursuing the truth at all costs. It is our own imagination and receptivity, which allows us to go beyond any previous frontiers. We work by taking external experiences and making them real within ourselves. For example, observing a bird in flight could help us open to the internal courage it takes to put ourselves out there. The freedom of flight could also be a way to internalize the bird’s experience. One reason why we are good at languages is because when we hear others speak we can embody and relate to the entire experience. In other words, when we hear new music, we wonder how we could create the same sound. This capacity to internalize an external experience and then imitate it in order to make it our own reveals the full circle of our gift. 

In this way we are able to create solutions that are improvised spontaneously and sometimes without premeditation. These breakthroughs provide a sense of joy and satisfaction that anything can be figured out. These joyful breakthroughs can also compensate for the inherent struggle and stress that life seems to bring us. As primary change agents, we embody the paradox of our time. How do we deal with the extremes of hyperactivity and indecisiveness that occur in a constant state of refocusing ourselves in new ways? What motivates our thinking is a desire for beauty or music that captures our creative nature. Having a sense of inner connectedness, which captures the metaphoric potency of a synthesizing or a unifying Intelligence, make our breakthroughs possible. Many would say that it is our ability to bridge or bring together different worlds, which makes us such an integrative experience. 

What is clear is that our multi-sensory nature facilitates the use of picture and sound to think beyond our current safe boundaries. It is our playful adventure of putting together irreconcilable concepts that creates satisfaction for us. While many may criticize us for being flighty, our greatness comes from our fluidity and mobility to see how the differences presented in life are actually a form of higher orderliness. Primary indicators of this type of thinking are unpredictable exploration and an expressive, non-linear, and non-categorical thought process that never goes where others think it will. Surprise interspersed with irritation as we wonder about the relevance of any particular contribution, is how others identify us. Another indicator is the use of color to organize the thinking and make presentations to others. The core motive is to somehow harmonize all Thoughts so that a greater peacefulness occurs. The degree to which this occurs is the same degree with which we are able to unify ourselves. When this happens, there is no longer a need to present the opposite of what others see. Finally, the inability to operate within a specific time frame sets us apart. 

We are grounded in the aesthetic, visual and imaginative realms. We are able to be dramatic, expressive, spontaneous, playful, and paradoxical without effort. We expand or explode imbalances and obstructions in Context (usually expressed as self-limiting perspectives or the framework of a possibility), releasing Awareness and Love. We call this Inventive Intelligence, because we integrate multiple sensory domains in a completely metaphorical way. We are more feminine than masculine and driven by strong desires to break out of set ways of thinking. We are not protective of the status quo, because better Thoughts are always being developed. Inventive Intelligence is visually acute, musical, and linguistic in nature. We can be visualized as a pendulum oscillating from side to side, yet always returning to center. This constantly reoccurs, because we gather the best options from the periphery and makes them available to everyone. We create inclusive “thought-forms” that bridge and link with the Universe, allowing us to be flexibly defined and responsive in character. 

Accuracy is not relevant; tone and unique connectivity hold much greater importance. We emphasize strong contrasts for dramatic affect and to illustrate our points. We are extremely flexible and pliant and easily impressed by external circumstances. This impressibility is what makes us sensitive and powerful as a change agent. It is also easy for us to become distracted by the multiplicity of ways to engage our environment. We operate on five levels simultaneously, making it difficult for others to get our full attention at any time. We are rapid, fast gestalt-oriented thinkers, who develop close rapport with anyone we choose. (But this does not mean we want to stay connected.) Instead, it is our curiosity that allows us to unify with others in their Thoughts. This is what makes us effective at bringing new possibilities to the world.

We are most attentive to issues of beauty, where elegant and simple solutions can change the world. We are extremely sensitive to color and tone, which we use to code and organize our thinking. We pursue ideas that bring together competing or conflicted forces so we can operate in unity. The irony is that we most value rugged individualism and stoic indifference rather than conforming to the choices of others. Even though we do not focus on factual details, we consider and evaluate all obvious concerns before being willing to make a choice. Additionally, we have to consider all the issues in relationship to each other (in the larger context) that are trying to be addressed. We are self-reflective, introspective, and almost obsessively preoccupied by our own way of thinking, which keeps us from becoming bored. We are capable of both analysis and synthesis, but we are more interested in bringing ideas together in new ways.

Inventive Intelligence, also known as Inventors, can quickly vacillate between hyperactivity and lassitude as we integrate things in our own way and time. Our strength is in our interconnected, synthetic, anagogic (making analogies), and metaphorical capabilities. We are free-associating, improvisational, and constantly self-refining. We are also sensitive, poetic, musical, and interested in literature. Our interests are determined by the Primary Creative Expression, and may not be wide ranging (depending on this energy). One of the primary purposes of our Intelligence is to integrate our new understanding with the understanding of others, when it serves our mission. We tend to be more introspective and quiet, depending on our Secondary, whereas Orchestrating, Visionary, and Patterning Intelligences are more outgoing. 

This Intelligence tends to break down pre-existing structures to find new ways to assemble Thoughts and make them more interesting and useful. We accomplish this primarily through problem solving outside the box; we hold on to a large, Divergent point of view, naturally attracting many different approaches. Because we have a naturally Divergent Decision Making style, we can utilize support in bringing together, stabilizing, and organizing our thought processes. Others may rebel against the time it takes for us to become decisive. 

We are peculiarly abstract. We focus on symbolic images and rely on figurative frameworks for expressing our knowing. Our imagination encourages many kinds of artistic expression, particularly with using our hands. We transcend time, which makes it more difficult to follow our Thoughts. Instead, we trust that everything will show up when it shows up. We are extremely sensitive to tension and intellectual conflicts, as we try to bring about harmony under all circumstances. 

Our energy manifests on Thinking and Feeling levels almost equally. Inventive Intelligence(s) give birth to new ideas and forms of thinking, which, in turn gives birth to new spatial manifestation. This reflects that we use the feminine more than the masculine to achieve our intentions. We are equally vulnerable to Objectification, Subjectification, and Idealization, because we are willing to create different points of view or take on new possibilities at the drop of a hat.

Inventive Intelligence can be used to protect ourselves primarily through distraction, lack of confidence and composure. All we need to do is to withdraw our attention from how others do not accept us, deny how they perceive us and ignore their lack of expectations about us. This creates a wall between us and others where we can live through our own fantasies and never test them under real world conditions. The way can maintain our delusion is to be consistently unpredictable and unreliable (pretending never to care how things turn out). In reality we actually do care and our worry and agitation about how others may not accept us is the proof that we care. While we may hide behind inertia, indolence and procrastination, we actually want to prove our greatness and capacity to contribute. The best way to accomplish this is to set aside our fears about what others think and focus entirely on how we can best express ourselves. We can also use unexpected opportunities to step into the ring and conquer our fears. Most of all we can start to build a consistent framework to follow through on those things we want. 

We can recognize the importance of Inventive Intelligence by how we overdo, under-do or react to it. When we overdo this Intelligence, we become overtly in-your-face expressive (hyperactive), overly poetic or picturesque. When we under-do this Intelligence, we vacillate, are indecisive, and create crises to keep ourselves busy. When overwhelmed and/or discounted by individuals who do not accept our form of Intelligence, particularly when we see immediately what is missing in a situation and this upsets others, we become extremely petulant, sarcastic, caustic or self-pitying. It is interesting to note that while we can be balanced and intuitive, we do not want to get lost in our wholeness. When we are hurt, we become overtly individualistic as a way to protect ourselves. 

As a Tertiary Inventor, we tend to think outside the box and bring others new perspectives or possibilities that could benefit them. Everything therefore becomes how to capture the attention and impress others with the viability of our concepts. This requires both an internal and external framework. Anyone who discounts the value of imagination, creativity and/or a sense of adventure had better avoid us. While we love to convince others of the power of our ideas, we do not appreciate interacting with individuals who are overtly biased, fixated or unwilling to think through things in an open way. We are particularly challenged by authoritarian figures that claim their coldness and objectivity make them better decision makers or administrators of the status quo.

We also have a certain distaste for egghead academics who do not apply what they know but instead are satisfied by theory. As Inventive thinkers we want everything to be anchored in personal real experience. That’s why we seek to provide many examples about how things can operate differently. Individuals who are intellectually limited, non-creative or caught up in intellectual pride are seen as problematic by us. While we don’t appreciate these types we do realize we have to politically customize our remarks to get others interested. The only question is, do we want to make the effort to do so.

What we love are people who have the capacity to deal with disorder and chaos without losing themselves. Anyone who fears change, denies beauty or discounts evolutionary impulses is seen as a counter-productive adversary to our plan. We also hate those who cannot see larger possibilities or acknowledge better outcomes. While we may be attracted to intense experiences, we are sensitive to drama and anxiety and hyper intensity will burn us out. We hate excessive rules and regulations and try to avoid habitual ritualism or any kind of pompous ceremony. We are environmentally sensitive and sensual, and are automatically repulsed by puritanical or repressive judgment that limits Life energy expression. 

At our core we want to be safe in our differences with others. This means we seek out partners that can adjust or move with us as we change. The underlying issue is if it’s not safe for us we have to keep people away from us otherwise we will be hurt. This leads us to fixate on differences and ignore similarities. As long as there are significant differences that we can accept in each other everything is alright. The irony of this situation is that being more, better, or different is actually one of the best ways we have to separate and differentiate ourselves from them. In this way we build a sense of self importance by being different which causes us not to be seen or valued by our partner as much.

When we’re not affirmed by others due to this difference we get caught up in our fear that we won’t be loved, especially because of our differences. This creates us to vacillate between looking for love through differences to switching over to using differences to facilitate differentiation. As a result, others rarely know where we are in the moment and what to do to support us in our growth.

As a result, we sometimes like to present ourselves as open, undetermined or confused so we won’t have to be responsible for communicating with others what is going on with us. Alternatively, we could just act indifferent so we establish the expectation that they should have no expectations about us. Mostly we do this to protect ourselves from being rejected or made a scapegoat for the needs of others. The way out of these fears is to come to accept the unusualness of our way of operating and be able to tell the truth about the differences and similarities without being reactive to others. This enables us to really be able to understand how both differences and similarities can help us in becoming more conscious human beings. The first step in this process is to really focus on the similarities and not be fearful that they will entangle or engulf us. It also supports us to love ourselves as we are and not define our self in terms of others. 

As parents, our children teach us to focus on what is needed. Our natural capacity to follow our own path and do what should be next can be somewhat compromised by the needs of our children. It is interesting to note that our multi-dimensional perspective, both helps us to see our children in new ways as well as keeping us from meeting them directly in their timeframe. The key issue is our own internal fragmentation, where we jump from thing to thing, seemingly at random, to respond to certain opportunities. With children who have an Inventive Intelligence mental body, this is not a problem. However when children do not have an Inventor Mental Body, they interpret our lack of focus as distancing behavior. Instead of the stricter structures and rules, we will tend to be more situational with our children and might operate in unpredictable ways, which they will not anticipate. The key issue is not to judge ourselves harshly for not being like other parents. The reason our children are with us is that we will provide greater opportunities for their internal freedom and development in their own unique way.

When we operate from this Mental Body we believe we need to create priorities that can evolve and change based on what we perceive our child needs. As a parent, this means we develop unique ways to meet each child. Unfortunately, it usually overwhelms our ability to function and take care of ourselves in the world. Our natural capacity to follow our own path and do what should be next can be compromised by the needs of our children. It is interesting to note that our multi-dimensional perspective, both helps us to see our children in new ways as well as keeping us from meeting them directly in the present. The key issue is our own internal fragmentation, where we jump from thing to thing, seemingly at random, to respond to certain opportunities. What we avoid is fixed structure where all the children need to operate in the same way. We also tend to avoid expectations or fixed notions of what our children should do or how they should respond. In fact, we learn who our children are by watching their responses to situations. Unfortunately, we sometimes feel we don’t know the best way to support them, particularly when they are struggling.

Some children have great difficulty with this because they need clear, unambiguous ways of acting (particularly Implementer and Orchestrator children). The key thing we train our children to do is negotiate for what they need and pursue those things they are passionate about. When we see our child respond in a particular way to a sport, musical skill or some group activity, we do all we can to make sure they have what they need to pursue the options they want. We want childhood to be fun and adventurous. There is little a child can do to throw us off course or cause us to give up on them. Children find this an easy touch because we will modify our perception if something is apparently important to them. What we hate is willful bullying and the imposition of authority inappropriately. With Inventor children, this is not a problem. However other Creative Expressions interpret our lack of focus as either ignoring them or as distancing behavior because we don’t seem to be paying attention to the same things. Instead of the stricter structures and rules, we will tend to be more situational with our children and might operate in unpredictable ways, which they will not anticipate. If we have more than one child, we customize our parenting to each child’s expressed needs. We do not feel obligated to impose rules and regulations equitably, we gauge where each child is in their growth, and do what we feel is best for the given situation.

For a short period we will adapt different ways of Parenting to see if they work with our children reflecting our experimental nature and desire to find the right thing for each child. The key issue is not to judge ourselves harshly for not being like other parents. The reason our children are with us is that we provide greater opportunities for their internal freedom and development in their own unique way. While they may not appreciate this in their younger years, they will frequently look back with great nostalgia and respect when they recognize all we have done for them, especially when they become parents. This is the most feminine Mental Body and as such it encourages children to define their own experience, in their own terms, the most. This creates a variety of responses in the children, based on their comfort with not having fixed expectations placed on them. This Mental Body can work particularly well with Inventor, Visionary and Investigator children. It often also has a positive effect for Storyteller children.