Idealized Attractions

Self-Acceptance, Personality Self Rejection, and Personal Intimacy are attractions that all require greater unification and belief in our selves. They can be reflective or receptive based on our degree of sophistication and integration. When we operate in a superficial way, we give up on our Creative Self. Instead of confronting what is real, anything we disagree with, we project on others. This is all in the attempt to live in a safe and secure world without having to confront the reality of where we are and what we are doing. In psychological circles, this process is sometimes called ‘living in the shadow side’. It is most revealed when we cannot engage the negative side of life. The more we dig into the underlying causes of our conflicts, the more we begin to see that ignoring our problems just makes them bigger. When we project our fears and disowned desires upon others we end up confusing ourselves. While we superficially believe that we seek clarity, clarity would mean taking ownership and distinguishing our issues from those of others.

In-depth exploration without judgment will naturally shift our attractions on this level. Most of the time, deepening our Self-perceptions will reveal dramatic changes in what is important to us and what is desired. The three attractions, therefore, are all framed in terms of what is good vs. what is bad. Self-acceptance is seen as a common good but is denied when we cannot measure up to our own expectations and standards. Personality Self-Rejection is seen as an inability to be Good, yet in the process of removing our standards we discover our inherent Goodness. Personal Intimacy is always seen as a moving target where we want more connection or less connection at different times in our life. What is not understood is that our conditioning around Personal Intimacy makes it more difficult to experience it even if we want it.

Idealized attractions are all about becoming more tuned in to our internal truth. The more we do not trust ourselves or operate in a state of unity, the more we externalize any negative perceptions about ourselves. Self-Acceptance is about getting clear about who we are as a Creative Being. Without self-acceptance we cannot be self-loving. Personality Self-Rejection is also a framework where we need to destroy that which inhibits, structures, and denies our perceptions in preconceived ways. If we do not accept our inner, dark side we cannot go beyond a certain point in accepting ourselves. Personality Self-Rejection is therefore the key to learning how to peacefully work through our past experiences where we made certain decisions that locked us into certain patterns of behavior. Freeing ourselves from these patterns, releases energy so we become more flexible and fluid in our response to others.

In Idealized attractions we need to deal with balancing our Feelings with Emotions. One way of distinguishing these two is that Emotions, at their highest, are receptive, which Feelings, at their highest, are reflective. Emotional receptivity is being present in the moment to actually experience what is going on for our selves and others at this level. Feeling reflectivity is an indication that we already know what is going on in the other person because we see it in our selves. When these issues are out of balance, Feeling perceptions fight Emotional perceptions and we do not know what to focus on or engage. What is worse is that we sometimes repress our knowledge of one of these and project it others around us, if it makes our experiences uncomfortable. This is the basis of Idealization, where we elevate our own picture of our selves by denying whatever hurts or minimizes us on a Feeling and Emotional level. We can also reverse this process and make our selves wrong and others better than us.

In the diagram there are many operational trade-offs between being seen as accepting and being attractive because you reject everyone (Personality Self-Rejection). It is a paradox because when we begin to feel constrained by our personality characteristics, we seek help from others by their rejection of us. While it may be hard to imagine, most of the “bad” boy and “bad” girl attractions are because we have accepted our limitations with too much complacency. Our personality characteristics are just the way we have been trained to be in a socialized community environment. The question becomes who would we become if we did not have these guidelines. Some individuals believe that without these structures, society would devolve into anarchy, and for these reasons, they cannot see beyond their safety and security fears. On the other hand, it has been our experience, that when people de-program themselves from following personality prescriptions, their inherent Goodness emerges. The problem is that the process provokes fears and repressed desires that, when acted out they can provoke negative consequences. This is because, in the acting out process, there is partial control and a desire for freedom, which simultaneously limits predictable expression.

It is the conflict between the two that produces the unfavorable outcomes that everybody abhors. This transition from operating within socialized conventions and finding our own unique ways of expressing ourselves can be hard on both society and us. The investment in our prescriptions from the past that worked, to finding how we can optimize who we are as a Creative Being requires that we become more receptive externally and reflective internally. Until we can bring these two possibilities together, we have little or no ability to really embrace our relationships through Personal Intimacy. Personal Intimacy is the ability to honor our selves and others equally. It is about our capacity to honor what emerges from us in relationship to others and what emerges from them in relationship to us. Personal Intimacy, therefore, requires that we both accept our selves as we are and who we are becoming. This is further enhanced by not rejecting any aspect of who our partners have been or who they are becoming. Most importantly, we need to stop projecting our differences and uncomfortable similarities on our partner, particularly, without acknowledging them.

An Introduction to Transfiguration

Transfiguration is the integration of Feelings and Emotions so we can be Passionate. Transfiguration is the process of going beyond our personality perspectives to engage our Creative Nature. It involves the integration of our Feelings and Emotions so we can be fully passionate. With transfiguration our capacity to be ourselves takes a huge leap in awareness and self-reflection. We become discriminating about how our choices also impacts the choices of others around us. Most importantly, we affirm our desire to improve our circumstances and ourselves in a transpersonal way. This search for ways to contribute affects our choices in partners because Alignment differences become obvious. This is why Compatibility Factors become fascinating to us at this level.

If we are dealing with Idealistic attractions, it indicates that we are trying to create meaning by engaging our Authentic Life Expression. Transfiguration means that we are remaking our self in our Creative self-image. It indicates that we are going to affirm our Creative Nature on every level of our Being. All of this is about acknowledging what is true about us and disengaging what we have been taught to do. It is the natural desire for anyone to affirm their natural contribution in life and find a way to make a difference in the lives of those around them. The opposite of Transfiguration is hiding out in Idealization patterns where we are not willing to confront our Creative Power and choose partners that affirm who we are. To be able to be supported, individuals at this level have to honor their Autonomy. This is the only way we will trust them to be as truthful as we are being with them.

While the Idealization process works to balance and clarify our Feelings and Emotions so they can become more integrated, this is only the first step of the process. Transfiguration is also about the expansion from our self-perceptions into an ability to deal with the world as it is. This means we need to confront our Sensations and Thoughts to fully integrate our Body/Mind system. Remember that in previous chapters, we talked about how Transmutation integrated our Sensations and Feelings and that Transformation integrated our Emotions and Thoughts. To be fully effective, Transfiguration is the result of unifying Transmutation with Transformation. In this experience we learn that we are not our personality mechanism, but the full embodiment of our Creative Nature. What this requires is for us to become more integrated in our Body and Mind system through Vibratory Expansion.  Vibratory Expansion is the ability to take polarized, reactive processes and build a way for them to operate in harmony together. The more we experience Vibratory Expansion, the greater our Context will be. This means we will have an easier time attracting others who are more aligned energetically with us.

The Idealized level (transcending Excitement and Intensity) demonstrates how the interaction of Feelings and Emotion can produce Repulsion. As the Feelings represent the positive pole, and Emotions reflect the negative pole, any imbalance between these two creates Repulsion at the level of personality development. The Repulsion can be internalized (withheld) or externalized by behavior we do not understand. When we withhold it we end up projecting it upon others, which they may or may not experience, based on their sensitivity. This actually cuts us off from being present with them. We also get cut off when we feel disconnected from others and attempt to engage them by acting out our Emotions through obvious, needs-based behaviors. We seek individuals who will bring us into balance because they reflect complementary or similar lessons, not to be confused with co-dependence where we need others to provide the opposite polarity, in order to get our “fix”. Transcending our needs allows us to work together in alignment toward common lessons or goals without being attached to the outcome. This is the realization that frees us from using others to make our selves appear better. Fortunately, this keeps us from repeating the same lessons until we learn to break out of choosing partners who are co-dependent with us. As Feelings represent Water and Emotions represent Fire, we create Steam when both are in balance with each other. When we come into balance between our Feelings and Emotions, we naturally experience our Goodness.

At the core of Anxiety is the confusion of a separative ego state, which operates with the illusion of safety and security when we are able to convince others to believe our Beauty, Truth, and Goodness. When we define our self in terms of desire, we limit our attractions to the domain of Glamour, where our limited emotional needs rule. We fixate on getting others to validate and affirm our Goodness. While on the Intellectual level we use the sense of taste, appetite, and cravings to distinguish our self from others, on the Idealized level we look for ease, comfort, and touch.

At the core of Repulsion is the folly and delusion of believing that we know what is best for us and others, based on past experience. When we define our self in terms of image or ideals, we limit our attractions to the domain of Glamour where our past associations about comfort and ease rule. We fixate on being seen as perfect to validate and affirm our Goodness. We use the sense of touch, and are both attracted to and repelled by any occurrences of envy (attachments to others’ possessions or experiences) or avarice (worship of money). We believe we need to acquire the experiences that others idealize. When we deny our Feelings or Emotions (see Table 8: Distinguishing Feelings From Emotions), or cannot integrate them, we project our fears and desires on everyone around us. This makes it easier to believe that others are the cause of our lack of progress. This is due to the unconscious belief that we need others to support our growth for it to manifest. Vibratory Expansion recognizes that we can grow by building our awareness and becoming more internally congruent. With this newfound capability we are able to match the energies of our partners, enabling synergy. 

Idealized Healing

Attractions, on the Idealized level, reflect disconnections between our Feelings and Emotions that block Intuitive or Abstract Knowing. Idealization reflects self-denial of our inherent Goodness, which we then seek in others because we cannot believe in our selves. We overdo our need to improve our selves and it distances us from our growth and makes creative self-acceptance very difficult. As a result it becomes easier to believe in others and be repulsed when others do not live up to our expectations. We lose our self in caring for others, which means we substitute Repulsion for Attraction when we are overwhelmed, particularly when we believe we are repeating lessons. It becomes more important to deny a negative possibility than to accept a positive new opportunity. As part of the transpersonal experience, we can project our fear, pain, and desire on others when we do not want to be present to our natural Goodness. This shows up as attempting to help or support others, when actually we most need to help ourselves. When we break out of superficial idealized projections of Goodness we need to make sure that we are not attracted to others because they will accept our shadow side.

Idealized attractions are identified by the requirement that we maintain a belief that the value of who we are is reflected by who we choose as our partner. We see examples of this everywhere we turn. Our image with others is affected by our choice of partners, particularly when the person is unconscious. If a partner matches or exceeds the expectations a third party has of us, they give us the thumbs up signal. This is due to the power of unconscious associations based on our standards of physical beauty, intelligence, and social appropriateness. When we seek out individuals that match our ideals we are comforted externally by how they represent our perspective to others. Our focus on choosing a partner with common desires reflects that we want to ignore our common repulsions (in the hope we can create solutions without conflict). Examples of repulsions are conflicts where we distance ourselves from our creative source with the belief that, in so doing, we are engaging a “better” ideal. Some individuals can get so caught up in living up to their higher image of themselves that they do not actually embody the thing that they idealize. For example, when we need to be a particular way to be accepted by others, it commonly results in our not being able to understand why they do not accept us. We can see this when religious people do not live up to their teachings, when businessmen take short cuts that are inconsistent with keeping customers, or in relationships when our partner demands that we operate in a particular way so they know they are loved.

We are in an idealistic honeymoon phase when we believe an individual is a certain way even when they are acting contrary to it. As we have said previously, every unconscious attraction is a dualistic dilemma because we project that we need others and yet are being controlled by them. The honeymoon phase ends when we run out of emotional capital that allows us to give the benefit of the doubt to our partner. While we want to believe that what they are doing is in support of us, after a while we come to doubt that they really have our best intentions at heart. Our inability to accept their ideals eventually leads to a demand to be accountable to the process that they engage in accomplishing these larger ideals. The problem is, when we are incomplete with our past, we distance ourselves from our partners (who we initially idealized) when they act in a way that triggers our past fears. We do not want to deal with our past in a way that hurts us, yet we inadvertently choose partners who bring our past back to us (with a vengeance). This often occurs when we seek Safety and Security by projecting a false sense of equality on the partnership, but secretly we believe we are superior to our partner.

The goal is to seek partners who are as conscious as us and who are similar in the fourteen Compatibility Factors, twelve Relationships Skills, and twelve Motives. Unfortunately, until we master a clear self-perception of our value, we keep choosing partners who reflect what we have yet to learn. It is common (at the Idealized level) to talk about how accurately our partners mirror us, particularly in regard to obstacles or misinterpretations that we mutually want to avoid addressing. The key skill we practice is conflict resolution, where we learn how to be Present with ourselves and honor our Truth without compromise. This is greatly enhanced by our ability to create a separate relationship space where we do not energetically take on the beliefs, fears, or desires of our partners, which minimizes confusion. By telling our Truth without compromise, we discover the value of being rejected or at least we can become clear about the appropriateness of the relationship (which keeps us from investing in people who are not prepared to engage us).

We can recognize that we are operating at the Idealized level by how sensitive we are to touch, both when we touch others and when they touch us. It takes presence and vulnerability to lean into physical contact with another and operate from an internal sense of being rather than focus on others with us. We need to stop living vicariously through others and choose to engage life directly. Of course it is easy to get overwhelmed and repulsed by any lack of authenticity on our part. This is reflected by the vulnerability we experience on both physical and emotional levels when we are with others. This opening is only possible when we make ourselves available to others by touching them and being touched simultaneously. What we are seeking is a mutual vulnerability so that we feel safe being seen and being present. Any idealization about our partner, or whom we are supposed to be to gain their respect will short-circuit this deeper connection. What we most want to know is that we are accepted for our faults and strengths. Any repulsion with others symbolically represents an incomplete lesson experienced as an inner repulsion to being with our selves.

Our need to distance others (to create an internal space) reflects that we struggle with honoring ourselves while simultaneously trying to honor others. The three ways we interact with our partner reflect how we become overwhelmed: Self Acceptance, Self Rejection, and Personal Intimacy. We idealize Self Acceptance by completely accepting others as they are. This creates an internal disconnect because we are unwilling or unable to do the same for ourselves. Self Rejection occurs, not only when others discount our Acceptance, but when we deny our selves first so that others cannot hurt us in unexpected ways. We end up attempting to avoid all conflict and can make our selves into martyrs because we do not believe we are understood or accepted as we are. Eventually, we come to realize that we need to be intimate with our selves by not falling into the trap of the Self Acceptance / Self Rejection duality. If we are not able to be present with ourselves, it is impossible to be present with others. Developing an inner compassion for our Creative Self awakens us to new ways to honor others without denying or losing our selves in the process.

The dilemma is constantly trying to live up to the ideal of who we should be and discounting ourselves when we do not. While this could be a level of great aspiration, most of it is strangled by the limitations we place on how that aspiration is expressed. Most of our experience is framed in how different it is from our past experience of some other person’s experience. Our attractions are therefore framed in terms of always doing something different from our past when we have a hard time accepting what is. Instead of focusing on our spiritual impressions, it is useful to ground our selves in terms of physical Sensations. Instead of getting lost in mystical visions, let us create a simple practical plan for expressing our deeper Truth. Let our voice of conscience become a unifying resonator that attracts people who are able to reflect and be with us as we are. The degree to which we are able to love ourselves for our authentic creative expression is the same degree that we will be able to fully articulate how our past no longer needs to limit or define our future.

When we no longer need to define our compatibility in terms of fixed ideals, it opens an opportunity to be present with our partners without repulsion. Repulsions are maximized and our Goodness is minimized when we consistently view our current relationships in terms of the past. This does not mean that we need to ignore any internal warnings, red flags or re-emerging past concerns. It just means that we do not fixate on reasons or excuses to justify our present conditioned choices. Our capacity to meet another without judging them opens the door to mutual Self-Acceptance, so that our Goodness can emerge. This is a fluid experience that we, in Higher Alignment, call Intuitive Discrimination. Intuitive Discrimination is the ability to make a choice from our Creative Being without interference of personality distortions (safety and security issues). With Intuitive Discrimination we can make our relationships “creative opportunities” and a “mutual contribution.” This requires us to love our Creative Self fully, so we attract individuals who can easily work with us. When we love our Self for who we are, it eliminates the friction of proving who we are with others, so we naturally grow. Our Goodness then emerges in surprising ways.

We recognize we are operating at the idealization level when we find ourselves trying to distance ourselves from the incomplete lessons of our past. This reflects that we still believe we can be ensnared by the issues of others and kept from fulfilling our own life mission. We try to distance ourselves so we do not become entangled. We seek the “Holy Grail” of Creative Alignment where we choose partners who will understand and accept us because they understand and accept themselves. This capacity to learn to interact in an open, but balanced manner is called Co-Measurement, which is learning how to be responsive without being overcommitted in each moment. Instead of relying on agreements we learn how to trust our selves and our partners to do what is appropriate in each moment. Co-Measurement is only possible when we operate with a degree of true equality of spirit. Operating in an idealized manner does not release us from our preconceptions and therefore interferes in the process of Co-Measurement.

The primary indication we are seeking this level is what Higher Alignment calls Vibratory Expansion, where our way of being is synergistic with that of others, allowing us to fulfill some larger purpose together. The problem is that we do not yet embody a non-defensive acceptance of our creativity independent of our partner. This results in the desire to do things on our own when our partners do not seem able to meet us. The Paradox is that we begin to view everything in terms of opportunities, and are frustrated when others do not respond as anticipated. The solution is to recognize that all that occurs is part of a learning process, and when something does not work, it shows us what to do to make it work. In this way, mistakes, concerns, fears, and desires can be reframed as opportunities for growth and expansion. The key shift necessary is to recognize that like energies reinforce and amplify our interactions. This does not mean that we cannot operate with people with whom we are different, it just means that we must learn how to energetically synchronize to one another to manifest synergistic, creative expressions.

Through Vibratory Expansion we become highly sensitive to all the idealized dissonances and uncomfortable similarities that are energetically present. We know when we are connected to each other and when we are not. We feel the pressure of attempting to perform and yet feel the ideal is always out of reach. This teaches us how to pay attention to each other without becoming lost in the other’s presence. It is most effective to pay attention to our own inner landscape and neutralize our own dissonances as much as possible so that we can actually be present enough to separate our own issues from those of our partner. When we are not able to tune in and synchronize with our own internal frameworks, our repressed fears and desires are easily projected on all of our relationships. While the motivation for this may appear to be supportive, in that we wish to be supportive to others, it actually increases our Co-Dependence with our partners. What we are learning is how to speak our Truth about our fears and desires, up-front and without apology, so the issues do not submerge us. We do not want unconscious merging, but conscious connection, which requires each partner to operate Autonomously. Only when we share our Truth can our partners trust and support us effectively.

The lesson of Vibratory Expansion is that we have to honor our Autonomy and be comfortable in our creativity to attract a partner who can do the same. It is only when we are present in our own way of being that we cease to project our fears and insecurities on our partners. This requires a great deal of acceptance of our strengths and weaknesses and the capacity to realize we do not need to hide any aspects of who we are. To the degree that both of us can accept ourselves, Vibratory Expansion naturally supports our growth and development as partners. To the degree that one or the other of the partners cannot be present with themselves, is the same degree that Vibratory Expansion is limited or does not occur. Vibratory Expansion is facilitated by our ability to describe our natural creative process. It is further facilitated when we know ourselves enough to not be attached to any way of being. This reflects a degree of self-awareness and flexibility that is rare in our society. Diagram 20: Vibratory Expansion: The Path To Goodness describes the choice we have about how we connect to our partners.

The technique of Vibratory Expansion allows us to acknowledge the difference between our earthly physical body desire (Sensations/Feelings) and our passionate fiery desire (Emotions/ Thoughts) to contribute and be known. Both are needed to empower our Authentic Life Expression. When we can combine these two energies (without fear or compromise) and invoke our imagination, visualization, and will to serve the larger possibilities around us, our vision evokes a response form the Universe. When these three wisdoms (Body Wisdom, Concrete Wisdom, and Intuitive Straight Knowing) come together, it makes our attractions to others even more potent. While our partners need to be as conscious as we are to Co-Create with us, when this occurs there is an explosion of energy depending upon how aligned we are in our life expression. What is in the way of these experiences is Idealization, past Repulsions, and Glamour (attachments to possessions or the image of Adoration or Admiration, as a substitute for inner well being). To the degree we are not present in a balanced, moderate manner in all our Feelings and Emotions, these issues will continue to haunt us. Owning the complete feeling/emotional Truth about our creative vision actually allows us to be less attached to it. It is only the denial of our vision that frustrates us, particularly when we seek short cuts that sabotage us.

Vibratory Expansion (that of loving, creative self-acceptance), suggests that we learn how to transfigure repulsions into opportunities for self-examination and inner clarity. Instead of seeking a partner who matches our ideals, let us attract a partner who can grow with us. This individual does not need us. This represents an opportunity to make an extraordinary contribution with a conscious, aligned, creative partner. Can we engage individuals in a way that mutually honors the evolution of the relationship without becoming fixated on any particular result? If we can, we will be able to create solutions that manifest mutual Beauty, Truth, and Goodness. This means we are both creating our own safety and security simultaneously with each other. This requires that we each connect and bond through our common Goodness. The Paradox is the more we encourage mutual freedom in the relationship, the more our partner finds the relationship itself to be valuable. We come to appreciate that the process itself will lead us wherever we need to go. This release of any goal allows us to use Vibratory Expansion to maximize common universal good. Can we share our love in a way that enhances the quality of our community and lives? If we can share our self in this manner, the context of our lives will naturally grow and expand in alignment with each other.

We repress Goodness by denying our Feelings and Emotions or both.  We deny our Feelings by not speaking or sharing what is going on in the moment in our own body awareness. Feelings are reflections of our interpretation of various physical stimuli in each and every moment. When we deny the value of our Feelings, it is difficult to know and express our Sensations. Sometimes, we become stoic, believing we need to tough out a situation and ignore our tension or pain. Men are traditionally expected not to be sensitive on a feeling level. Women are told to listen to their Feelings without considering that they tell us much of anything. Actually, Feelings are the body’s reflection of our life energy. Feelings are required if we are to distinguish and use our Body Wisdom to chart our course in life. This is why they are commonly used to investigate and choose a new course in life. “Follow your bliss” is one example of a paradigm based on knowing through Feelings. How another reacts or responds to this statement can be an indicator of the degree of idealization that exists with us!

Feelings can be amplified and supported by being conscious of our Emotions. This requires accepting our Emotions without trying to control the outcomes of our life by limiting our expressions (on this level). Many individuals get stuck trying to use Emotions as a substitute for Feelings, because Emotions can be controlled more easily than Feelings. Let us recognize that Feelings reflect our Body Wisdom and Emotions reflect our Concrete Knowing. These two different sources complement and enhance each other if we are willing to support them in a unified way. Unifying Feelings and Emotions creates Intuition or Abstract Knowing. Metaphorically, the water of Feelings can meet the fire of Emotions, producing the steam to move us forward. This kind of knowing is symbolic and metaphoric and operates in a patterned way that allows us to see and consider various correspondences. Correspondences are the basis for higher growth and understanding, for the Universe is holonic (meaning everything is related in particular ways to everything else).

Vibratory Expansion uses the alignment of correspondences to guide growth. Since growth occurs best when certain requirements are met, it is no wonder that it requires energetic connections with others to manifest a larger vision. We can only empower a larger possibility when we are in energetic alignment on a creative level. This requires loving ourselves so we become an open and responsive being who seeks alignment with others. Being transpersonal and able to distinguish our energy from that of others is a prerequisite to consciously Co-Creating with them. This process begins by being able to expand our own creative energy without becoming polarized by others. This establishes a new level of interdependence, when two or more individuals consciously commit themselves to go beyond self-imposed limitations. Vibratory Expansion can be best facilitated using the Common Neutral Ground technology. This approach, establishing a separate energetic space (apart from all individuals), greatly facilitates the process of Vibratory Expansion. In this way, the solution is benefited by being outside anyone’s personal limitations, which also supports easier conflict resolution. Let us commit our selves to creating opportunities for Vibratory Expansion so we can let go of limited idealistic attractions that keep us from accepting our authentic creative power.

We experience Vibratory Expression when we are able to operate synergistically with others. This process opens us up to sharing ourselves so we can become common resources for one another. It is a contemplative practice, where we find ever-increasing ways to meet others so they are more able to respond to us. Like the Cellular Affinity or Vibratory Response process, this is an inner shift that allows us to manifest greater connection in the external world. We can use pictures of community or business groups (in which we are operating) or an image of a beating heart inside a green circle of service (See Diagram 21: Radiating Heart in Green Circle). Vibratory Expression is the empathetic compassionate connection to others that arises from a commitment to serve and contribute. The primary obstacle is our own idealization of our Self or our process. Until we are able to balance our inner experience with the experiences of others, we are caught in the world of ‘dueling personal identities’. Unwittingly any idealization of others sets us up to feel bad about where we are which means that eventually we want to see others get their just desserts. We can see many examples of this where we put people on pedestals only later to tear them down. The answer is to always honor the simple goodness of our selves and others on an equal level. The more we distort this simple message and believe our personality perceptions about their strengths and weaknesses compared to ours, the less synergistic we will be in any process with them.

Contemplation is the experience of Unity, where bliss, harmony, peacefulness, joy, and equanimity guide us to new expressions of Creative Alignment. Vibratory Expression focuses us on the heart and allows us to accept that pain and pleasure is a shared reality. Instead, we are no longer daunted by our outer experiences. We become increasingly focused on the inner path of our Creative Expression. We see our freedom, yet are willing to pick up the burden of working together to create a common vision. We therefore invoke our inner nature to evoke the appropriate outer expression. As a result, greater synchronicity reaffirms the value of our contributions and the nature of our shared reality. When we use this image we can become more tuned in to the nature of unconscious and conscious sacrifice. Conscious sacrifice is the commitment to contribute or share something for the greater good that we understand is not to promote our personal interests or gain credit so that others will feel obligated in some other way. Unconscious sacrifice, where we become martyrs so that others will become sympathetic to our needs, is actually the opposite of this. Unconscious sacrifice is based on personality cleverness where we are willing to manipulate others and in turn, are manipulated by them. The opposite of this is operating in a state of Creative Being where we see the interconnectedness of all things and are willing to take responsibility on a larger level in order to facilitate greater opportunities.

When we eliminate our Idealizations, most individuals initially fear a lack of standards by which to measure progress. They cannot see how fixed standards have always minimized progress because it allowed us to compare ourselves to others. If we are able to grow without fear of comparison, judgment, or retribution would we then accept our natural development as perfect? There is a perfect expression and natural pace of development in each one of us. Let us release external standards so that we can be measured by our own self-chosen task and contributions. Let us use the heart symbol with a green circle or contemplate some work group about ways we can contribute more. Remember we are not worried about what they think about us, or our process. Instead we are focused on finding the best contribution that matches our own beating heart. The more we release any outer desire to please others, the more we will be able to tune in to the inner needs that we can serve. Individuals doing this process are commonly surprised at their own ingenuity and the response they receive when they contribute in new ways to others. They discover that there is no substitute for the inner acceptance of their Being and the common Wisdom that arises thereof.