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Honoring Our Creative Being

A Common Neutral Ground at Level 4 opens up the portals of our perception to a larger opportunity. Now that we are no longer caught up in reactions, we can easily validate and investigate Compatibility Factors, Motives, Attraction and Relationships Skills in others and ourselves. The more we are self reflective of our inner processes and take ownership of them, the more we come to see how others’ responses reveal their patterns of interaction. This awakens us to understanding what is possible to share with someone without creating additional reactions and what will likely bond us in a more effective way. In order to implement this possibility we need to recognize what we can and cannot say in any moment. Ironically, the very ability that helps us sort out and predict where reactions will occur also guides us to being more present and outgoing in our desire to take risks in service of larger creative possibilities.

The core issue is to trust our reflections of what is congruent and what is not. The value of this is that we use areas of congruence and similarity to build Creative Flow, so we can have the Intimacy and Co-Creative experiences that will bond us. It is the harmony we create in these congruent experiences that supports us when dealing with uncomfortable differences or similarities. Wherever we are not congruent, either in ourselves or with partners, we need to learn to accept that some of our perceptions may not be accurate or appropriately applied to the circumstance. Without compassion for ourselves and our partner’s differences, there can be little or no engagement. By speaking directly to the issues we come to understand each other and can use our differences to forward the relationship process.

The most important aspect to creating and maintaining a CNG is to Love, Esteem and Respect our partner. This means operating with as much integrity as possible about our agreements and recognizing we need to proactively communicate when something is not working. We do not have a Co-Creative relationship unless we are both able to relax in each other’s presence, and discuss what we want to accomplish together. This means we need to have a positive emotional bank account with each other so we do not fall into a situation of not having enough desire to move the relationship forward. Two things that will guarantee relationship breakups at this level is a partner who either cannot tell their Truth (and constantly disappoints their partner) or when we do tell the Truth. This does not mean we do not love each other, but that we cannot be of highest service to each other.

When we honor the dignity of others, it permits us to establish better human relationships. Higher Alignment is about creating harmony where there was none. This requires that we recognize that we tend to affirm what we know and discount what we do not know. One of the real benefits of this document is to make you aware of all the different possibilities that exist. Even when we understand the differences, we can also have a bias toward believing what we do and the way we do it makes sense to us. Therefore, we believe in those individuals who think and act like us. We need to understand that how we measure performance is incomplete and distorted based on our own history. What we do know now, is that there is a wide spectrum of choices and gifts that emerge under various circumstances. This means we have to attract solutions and honor everyone, even if they do not what we would want. By focusing on what we need, we attract individuals with similar intentions. Our best option is that working together will evoke solutions that will surprise us. Otherwise, what are our options?

In a CNG, we experience every congruent truth as a mutual experience. When this occurs, our experience expands into their experience. They are able to mirror us and support our growth process. We are able to do the same for them. Any differences become opportunities to see the world in different ways. Our partner learns how to appreciate and enjoy things that may have repulsed them because we get so much enjoyment from them. We discover how these differences add a secondary level to our mutual growth process. They become possible expansions where we learn to neutralize any Intensity or conflict so we become more cognizant of how these differences can be useful in creative problem solving. The more natural alignment we possess in our Compatibility Factors, Motives, Attractions and Skills, the more natural space we bring to the process so that we can expand more quickly to embrace our differences. This does not mean that we cannot strive to neutralize these differences and create more harmonic experiences together through a direct approach of confronting and talking about them. It does mean that the more we love ourselves, the more naturally we can synergize with others and be more creatively empowered to change anything and everything we want.

When we affirm Radiant Self-Unifying Love for our selves and others, it opens the door to having transpersonal relationships. This means that while we are supportive of the needs of our partners, we do not define ourselves completely in terms of them. Instead, we recognize that every partner needs to affirm his or her Creative Nature to operate with Autonomy. Unless they assume authorship of their life and can define their own path, they cannot operate in a Transpersonal, Co-Creative relationship. Another requirement of Transpersonal relationships is the ability to be self-reflective and able to share our experience intimately. This is why Radiant Self-Unifying Love is such a heart-to-heart bonding event. While these relationships do not need to be romantic, they are Transfiguring because they provide new ways of interconnecting with others. These experiences deepen our understanding of our Self and our place in the universe. They provide meaning and clarity of our purpose. Most of all, they expand our Context so we are able to think in terms of how others will be affected or impacted before proceeding. Energetically this process is greatly facilitated through Defensive healing because it opens us up to experiencing the true modalities of our partner.

When our partners are more creatively in Alignment with us, we tend to adapt ourselves to their reality and not take responsibility for how we manifest our choices. This is due to a lack of personal Context. We find ourselves dependent on others to make connections for us so we do not initiate our own discovery and creativity. Instead, we become submerged in adoring our partners without recognizing that we need to be examining our own possibilities and making the best choices for ourselves. This is the final limitation to being present in our own Autonomy. When we can accept both the good and bad in our partners as they truly are, we are no longer distorting our image of them.

When we limit types of connections by denying particular Relationship Skills, we minimize connections with others. Each of the twelve Skills teaches us a new way to connect with others. Most people operate with three to five Skills at best. This means there are a lot of ways they could connect with others if they were motivated to learn additional Skills. Every time we close down a Skill that we have previously activated with another person, it creates pain for us and the other person. This creates the main reasons we leave partners at this level. Sometimes this has a lot to do with our conditioning about what we can or cannot do, which is particularly influenced when a partner withholds from us or otherwise hurts us so that we withdraw our willingness to participate. A benefit of developing our Relationship Skills is that with every Skill we add, we love ourselves more. This helps us trust individuals with similar Compatibility Factors. Until we do this, our Personality programming is more comfortable with opposite attraction relationships. It also prevents us from seeing or engaging similar partners, falsely believing that there is no creative chemistry. If we bond with similar compatibility factors, the creative chemistry will supercharge the sexual chemistry. Loving ourselves shifts our Attractions and chemistry, making conscious relationships operate in a different way.

What we learn is to keep our passions hidden so others will not be able to manipulate us. This leads us to play chess with our Feelings, Emotions and Passions, anticipating when and how it is safe or secure to proceed. One of the first things we do when entering this level is to determine who wants what we want and distance ourselves from those that are questionable. This means a lot of our opposite attraction friends and partners will be left behind because of their need to oppose and question us. The irony of this process is that we are still hesitant to fully engage our Passions. We are always anticipating that others will use our passion against us. This does not keep us from projecting our Passions onto them, because we believe that what is good for others, should be great for us. While we may not be conscious of this strategy to tie others into our needs, it does not escape us that we are often frustrated and lack patience when others do not align with our Passions. The problem with Idealization is that the enmeshment that occurs is frequently justified in the name of growth and the desire to be Good. This is why it can be so healing not to be a caretaker, defensively nice, or overly sentimental.

The Balance of Goodness

Essentially, Goodness is about making a positive impression upon others. We seek to bring out the best in others so they will accept and love themselves more. Externally, it is experienced as Humility, Striving, and Service. Internally, it is about dedication to our Purpose, while embracing the well being of those around us. Most individuals tend to personalize Goodness by seeing it as the degree to which we get along with others. They use niceness, caring, and even adaptability as indicators that they consider themselves Good. Higher Alignment proposes that Goodness is actually about operating in ways that produce the largest benefit for the most involved. This approach is more Transpersonal because it is about how we can meet and serve others without compromising Universal Intent. When we are operating on the level of our Creative Nature, it is no longer about personality needs.

On this level we need to integrate our Feelings with our Emotions to know what is actually good. Goodness comes from our Spirit and honors our natural desire to be human and vulnerable. It promotes acceptance and peace. It provides an opportunity for Grace to be experienced. We recommend periods of Silence to enhance our ability to be with our Goodness. Many times the voices in our heads reflect different personality aspects that are incomplete within us. When we can integrate these, Goodness and Peace become possible. We are then able to demonstrate greater Compassion for others. Instead of focusing on differences, we focus on how to integrate ourselves and be more inclusive of others. This is why cooperation becomes so important to us.

Goodness is a natural response when we feel connected to the universe. It is a way of interacting with all of the possibilities around us so that we embrace all of our opportunities. This permits us to make choices that serve us and serve the world at the same time. Without this integration, our personality distortions separate our mind and body knowing, sabotaging one or the other, based on our in-the-moment emotional state. This makes us dramatic and unpredictable. It means that we rely on our personality perspective to define what we want and how we want it. This creates a sense of entitlement where we can believe that the world owes us a living. We attract lessons where what we have becomes lost or unavailable because we have not been the best stewards of the things that we have, e.g. having a home and friends.

As you can see from this conversation, Goodness is usually personalized in terms of Feelings and Emotions. When we use our Emotions to try to control our Feelings, it creates distortions in our ability to act. We end up second-guessing ourselves. When the Feelings become overdone, and the Emotions take a back seat, we also have imbalances in our ability to tell our Truth. On Level 3, these imbalances become the basis of having either common aspirations or divergent ones. This means that initially we could do well with someone, until an aspiration surfaces that separates us from our partner. The problem is that we usually are identifying with our Feelings and/or Emotions to a degree that limits our ability to care for our larger self.

The more we are out of balance between Feelings and Emotions, the more we use Idealization in an attempt to manipulate or control our partner. In Level 2, this was more overt and focused on who had the best information or insights. In Level 3, the issue is always about who has the best way to make things right. The more we argue over how to engage, the less we are able to implement what we desire. The issue becomes one of differences rather than honoring similarities and moving together. In this situation, we typically blame the other and tend to define ourselves in terms of how our partner limits us. This is counterproductive and eventually leads to relationship breakups.

Revealing our true experience can either fragment the relationship or bring us together in a more complete and whole way. This is based on our ability or lack of ability to be compassionate with our partners and to be able to see their perspective as well as our own. Until we do this, we really do not have an ability to be completely Transpersonal. The benefit of doing this is learning how to be unified even when we have considerable differences. It makes us stronger as individuals and as a couple, when we can acknowledge differences and still embrace and use the similarities. We also begin to see how much we need to be seen by our partner in order to be effective in the relationship. For some individuals who have more experience with this, having a few similarities can be enough. For other individuals, who need to feel seen as much as possible, this means choosing partners with greater similarities.

When we unify our Feelings and Emotions, it also creates a connection between our body and mind. Our body awareness can then be an alternative perspective to our personal experience of truth. When we have both of these frameworks available, they can check and balance each other. It also creates a way to resolve conflicts between us by coming up with in-the-moment solutions where we act in alignment with our higher knowing. Some individuals call this unified framework our intuition, but at Higher Alignment, we call it Vibratory Expansion because it allows us to express and integrate our Passion. The more integrated we are in our framework, the more Passion we can express. It helps us to anchor our experience in our hearts. It also makes us clear when we connect to others. This is because our integration process allows us to resolve differences between our Creative Self and our Personality Self. The more harmonious we are in ourselves, the clearer we are about what is going on with others.

When we are balanced (between Feelings and Emotions) and present with our Goodness, Idealization is neutralized and we can see the Relationship Skills of our selves and others. The more Idealization we have, the more limited our connections to others, as we typically use two or three of twelve possible connections. The more we embody Relationship Skills, the more it indicates that we love ourselves as we are. Each Relationship Skill denied reflects parts of ourselves where we deny or do not accept who we are. In effect, we choose the types of connections with another by which Skills we activate with them. Most of the time, this reflects either the Skills they embody, or the ways they make themselves available. By appreciating them only for certain Relationship Skills, it sets us up to develop complimentary skills because we don’t know any better.

More importantly, equality is unfair and unsustainable in any project where we cannot be present with each other in the moment and feel relaxed and confident about our ability to make a difference. When we Idealize and end up disagreeing, retribution is the name of the game. We can see examples of this whenever people believe the best in people and then are disappointed, making them the worst people on the planet. Most examples of demonization are the result of some initial Idealization. It is also true that people in the public eye who accumulate a good reputation, tend to make others envious, leading them to undermine or bring down these individuals whenever possible. In the media, this produces a roller-coaster effect where celebrities vacillate between being good people and bad people to sell more stories. Idealization always intensifies drama and justifies people’s stories about themselves, even if they are not true.

On the third level of CNG, Co-Measurement is the ability to autonomously adjust to each other’s circumstances to maximize our mutual benefit. In Co-Measurement, we first establish what is our natural capacity to support others and do not go beyond this level. While most individuals idealize their ability to be creative with another person, the reality is that very few people have the capacity to adjust to others without compromising themselves. The reason for this is that we do not have a balanced method for assessing both our strengths and weaknesses. This leads us to either push ourselves to do more than we can, or hold back until we know we can. Having great CNG Skills means being able to see who we are because we are affirming ourselves.

The more we are around individuals with a strong CNG, the greater the speed of our integration and growth. We come to recognize that deeper individuals are more able to meet us. We notice how much joy we have being with them, because they stimulate us to be more conscious. The objective becomes finding others who can mirror us while simultaneously having their own inner realizations that distinguish them. This ability to have multiple learning and growing processes between partners can only occur when both have accepted the power of Paradox. Interdependent Lessons become more critical as we learn how to trust that if we do not have a solution, our partner will. Paradox is the ability to see many seemingly contradictory truths on the surface, but if we look deeper, we find a central unifying Truth.

One of the main benefits of interacting with others using a CNG is that we no longer need to caretake or help our partner be more conscious. How often do we find ourselves with individuals who need guidance and prompting just to complete whatever we are doing together? As we become proficient in CNG, we naturally learn how to keep our eye on the ball to make sure everything is going well. CNG increases our awareness when something is not working or flowing. We can feel obstacles arise in the CNG space. When we are with others, this awareness increases and we can support each other more effectively without being perceived as judgmental or defensive.

We have a balanced appreciation of our capabilities when we can be fully present in our bodies and minds simultaneously. When we idealize ourselves, these two sides of us can reflect different perspectives of how we are doing. When these aspects disagree, we have no easy way of reconciling them. When we are out of balance and not able to reconcile our own misgivings, we feel compromised when we adjust to others. Any change is seen as a lack of personal power. When we are unclear and unable to balance ourselves, the relationship becomes a burden. It is even more problematic if we attempt to adjust to others without affirming ourselves. This compromises our Autonomy and diminishes our energetic integrity. By denying ourselves, we end up becoming resentful and angry with others who need or rely on our support.

We can also get caught in attention-evoked-bliss (commonly known as Anxiety) when we fixate on certain principles, practices or places as a way to escape this Anxiety. Idealization distracts us by making certain things mean something more than is actually true. Since it reflects a disconnection and imbalance between our Feelings and Emotions (which are also seen as the dissonances between body and mind), Idealization favors one-sided perceptions (body feeling/knowing or emotional/mental knowing). Which one do you prefer? How do you attempt to make your reality reflect this preference? Can you recognize when your bias is in operation? What is the cost in energy, frustration, and inability to engage life with Passion? If the answers to these questions make you uncomfortable, there are parts of you that you do not currently accept or love. Remember that love self-unifies you and is not automatically a desire for Attention and Affirmation.

The more we believe that passionate experiences are based on physical or intellectual accomplishments, the more envious we are of others who demonstrate greater Unity or integration. Envy is often precipitated by the false belief that others have it so much easier than we do. Every person has their own path appropriate to their contributions and challenges. Until we trust this perspective, we will continue to be Envious. The way out of Envy is to centralize our Feelings and Emotions so our Desire becomes free and our intuition blossoms. When we bring our Feelings and Emotions together, we attract those who are equal to us. Otherwise, we are caught in a hierarchical world with people we have to caretake. We believe that keeping others from falling into a frustrating experience justifies our controlling their options.  When we transfigure Envy we are naturally more compassionate, open, available and understanding of others.

The problem on this level is that we want to be wanted more than is healthy for us. We attempt to convince ourselves that we are here for others. Most of the time this is a reaction to releasing ourselves from our defenses. Where previously we were self-preoccupied and focused on our own security, now we try to prove how positive we can be. The challenge becomes on how to actually be good, not an idealization of what we believe is good. Being good comes from our heart’s connection to everything. Trying to be good comes from our mind’s idea of how to be good. The answer is knowing the balance between the past and future where we can be present and whole, in the now.

At the third level of CNG embodiment, we begin to see the meaning of relationships. We wake up to the lessons that evolve in different types of relationships and how we cannot go beyond our partner’s capacity to embrace a lesson. This wakes us up to the limitations of relationships, and also helps us to understand where opportunities lie. The most important thing is that we begin to consciously deal with superficial obstacles so we can actually benefit from being in certain relationships. As this occurs, our confidence increases and we can take more risks in finding a way to optimize the relationships we are in. Some individuals at this level become overly committed to partners who do not want to expand or break out of these limitations. This choice, to choose to stay with partners even when they are not good for us, can be honored here because of the profound connections made. (No shame/no blame.) Sometimes the best we can do is to maintain the status quo.

The positive aspect of learning to engage others without compromise is that we no longer need to take on guilt, shame and blame inappropriately. The more we can get beyond these defensive patterns, the greater our Personality Detachment. As long as we are able to forgive ourselves for the mistakes of our past, and not carry them forward into our life, the more we can love ourselves. Otherwise, these self-judgments create havoc in our internal understanding of what motivates us. The real problem at this level is that the more we are imbalanced in our Feelings and Emotions, the less we honor ourselves. This leads us to inappropriately making others wrong for their contribution to our situation. At this level, it is important to recognize our impact in making mistakes so that we do not project our problems onto others. Ultimately, it is about forgiving ourselves so we no longer need to preemptively place our blame, shame and guilt on others.

All growth occurs through embracing dualities. In this case, we heal Idealization in the present by accepting that what we want to be true is only one possibility. Since the world is multi-dimensional, and every one of us has a vote in our future, it would serve us well to invite others to join our vision so that we can manifest it together. What does your dreamer seek? How would you like to live? We attract individuals that operate at the same level as us, and at Level 3, align with our vision so that they have similar desires. What we need to watch out for is competition around our Desires. This is why cooperation becomes so important. When we Idealize others or ourselves, we become self-preoccupied, which prevents cooperation. This is why we say Idealization covertly undermines relationships.

When we shift out of Defenses, our creativity begins to flourish. Things that seemed easy in the past now appear more complicated because we are now more aware.  We usually get caught up in how we can make a difference, only to be shocked when things do not go as planned. There is a natural period of readjustment where we need to discard the previous shortcuts and reorganize how we engage our processes without Idealization. When we learn to heal our automatic thinking about how something ‘should’ occur, things go better. We also need to wake up to the necessity that all interactions with others need a common space outside of our personal space. When we separate our personal space from our shared space, it creates greater clarity. The benefit is that we will not need to take in any of the comments of others that would have previously thrown us off balance.

We learn to differentiate ourselves around our Creativity. Our desire to become more transpersonal helps us to investigate new and different types of individuals. Most people are only comfortable with three to seven of the 343 different Creative Expression combinations. Going beyond our familiarity-comfort-zone, and exploring the kinds of relationships that bring out the best in us, changes our perspective about who we are and what we can do. Compassionate and Visionary Intelligences tend to personalize their experiences, which makes them able to see the differences in others while accepting themselves. This allows them to get out of their limited frameworks. Others have greater difficulties because their Expectations reinforce being with only a few selected creative types who are familiar, safe and secure. Most of our relationship choices are familiar because we have pre-identified safe combinations of Creative Expression, where we know what to do to maximize the benefits of the relationship.

One of the most important aspects of Level 3 is that we are learning the difference between compromising ourselves and operating authentically. When we are authentic, we feel more engaged and passionate. When we are compromised, we feel more envious and anxious. Embodying our Authentic Nature starts to be realized when we affirm our Primary Creative Expression. Initially, this could be a nebulous, emotional experience; it feels natural, and yet entirely new. We end up not being sure if it is real because it feels so involving and supportive to others. What makes our Primary Creative Expression different than our Secondary is that our Primary Expression is one where when we contribute we and others are served simultaneously by the activity. It also seems more Contextual (spacious) because we seem to not need to prove ourselves, but are interested in just letting things develop. As a result, this dream of being a co-creative being becomes real and actualized just by engaging it.

In Level 3, we begin building our authentic Creative Nature. We separate the false patterns and reactive impulses from those that resonate and create joy. Our Personality is fearful that our joy will undo all its remaining protection patterns. It’s valuable to remember that our Personality fear is not a reflection of our Creative Nature. The Creative Self lives in joy and wants to stand revealed. It is only our Personality’s Fears and Desires that interfere with this unfolding. Every time you do something with joy, notice to what degree your activity matches your authentic expression. If we are aligned, then joy and Vibratory Expansion will naturally confirm our choices. Every Compatibility Factor, Motive, Attraction and Relationship Skill will tell you the degree to which you are on your life path. This is the path of Right Relationships.

We seek full conscious participation with every engagement, no matter how large or small. Co-creativity brings out unity of purpose and spirit, and clarifies our path. What we want to do is build our internal resources so we are able to respond directly. This means exploring options, manifesting creative gifts and talents, and learning how to work with others. We will find that some resonate and understand our perspectives. We will also learn how differences—while challenging—can be uplifting as well.  All these differences and uncomfortable similarities are preparing us for larger contributions.

Learning to consciously connect to another is aided by using similarities to establish a foundation for sharing. These similarities could be common Compatibility Factors, Motives, Attractions, and Relationship Skills. The more we can meet others where they are and establish rapport, the greater the consciousness we can mobilize to make things better. We need to expand our inner connections so decision-making becomes the conscious way of engaging problem solving. The more individuals align together (using a CNG) the greater the synergistic effects. This is how a small group of individuals can have a profound effect on a larger, less conscious group. We begin with learning how to declare our intentions. After we establish our own CNG, we connect and overlap our CNG by visualizing a common space and setting an intention. This intention needs to be either a Transpersonal or Impersonal Desire. Separative Desires will not work. Every group needs to first align themselves to Universal Intent by imagining Life, Light and Love energies enveloping their physical form. By immersing ourselves in the support of the Universe, it allows us to stabilize our Personal Intentions within the larger framework. It also allows us to strengthen the CNG when we can concentrate on, meditate and contemplate the possibilities we have with others. The clearer we are about what we are dedicated to, the stronger the field effects will be.

Personality Integration is the process of bringing together our Creative Nature and Personality. While it is a long-term process, it usually initiates before we are 35. Not all people complete the process of stepping into their Creative Nature. In fact, the vast majority in this country do not. Duality arises between our mortal (Personality Self) and immortal self (Creative Nature). While we do not have to believe in reincarnation, it surely helps. To the more secular individuals, this transition is often called a mid-life crisis. This is where we notice something is missing, but we’re not sure exactly what it is. What we are sure of is that the old way of doing things no longer works. The key element that creates this duality is identification with our need to be Safe and Secure, which is our Defensive Identity. This Personality behavior gets codified into roles and patterns that seem to be the easy way to get what we want. Educating ourselves about these dualities of Life, Light and Love makes us human.

The benefits of affirming our Creative Nature is that we begin to distinguish what makes us authentic and real and what things we have adopted from others that is no longer real. This means we begin eliminating our Imprinting and Pretenses. When we do this, people find it easier to engage us. They also recognize the realness with which we are engaging other people and are attracted to it. We begin to be magnetically sensitive to other individuals who are embodying themselves as we are. This means we attract individuals with a higher Worldview. We also get used to being with people with greater similarities, which leads to more fulfilling, deeper connections. Most importantly, we start to express our Passion authentically. This can even lead to the use of Skillful Means where we use commonalities to promote easier co-creative connections.

Our Primary Creative Expression is, for most of us, a step into the unknown. This is because unlike our Mental Body Expression, which is about doing, or our Secondary Expression, which is about relating, our Primary Expression is completely about Being. There is always an unknown when we engage our Primary Creative Expression. This means we need to get comfortable with uncertainty, Playfulness and Paradox. When we first step into this arena, we usually have mixed results. This is because our Primary Creative Imprinting has conditioned us to doubt that who we really are can be seen and supported by others. As a result, we need to actively affirm and explore our Primary Expressions until we get consistent, clear and unambiguous feedback that we have natural gifts in this domain.

Another reason individuals are not sure about their Primary Expression is because there are different creative gifts that emerge when we connect up with different creative expressions. This creates 343 unique sequences. Comparing ourselves between these is like comparing apples with oranges. Each of these expressions has different degrees and capabilities that emerge only when we connect to certain expressions. Certain Creative Expression combinations produce a natural outpouring of skills and gifts while others provide completely different responses. It also depends on where we are in embodying our creative expressions, particularly including our Primary. We mark out these actualizations on a scale of 0 to 7, with 7 being the highest level. A common way to identify this hierarchy is to say that the first level relates to inner fears, while the second level relates to outer fears. On the third level, it is about inner desires, and the fourth level, outer desires. The fifth through seventh levels indicate the different ways we connect with people who are the same as we are, as well as people who are different. Level 7 indicates that we have mastered the full expression and are masterful in our ability to meet and support others in our expression.

The seven Primary Creative Expressions are:

  • Orchestrator Primary —We want to see, know and declare what is needed. Our comprehensive intention will carry the day. We are steadfast, determined and precise in the contribution we wish to make. We are very rare, but we usually show up either to clear the way for new development or to reestablish or reinvigorate a new area of creativity. For example, in the 1980s, a number of Orchestrator women were magnetized to Silicon Valley, which stimulated development at that time. We attract people with many diverse talents and skills, allowing us to assemble the exact right teams to accomplish any particular mission. It does not really matter to us whether the people get along or not because we impose ourselves in the middle of the process so most things come directly through us in order to be passed on to other people. When we are conscious about creativity, we become more relaxed and team-oriented.

  • Compassionate Primary — We want to experience and express love. We reflect back to people the things they have denied in themselves so they can be who they are. We are re-creators of others’ thoughts, and we help build greater connections between people, processes and places. What we bring to others is a sense of home. Some would say we are the most adaptive intelligence when it comes to people because we see what people need as well as what they want. We are integrators, amplifiers and synthesizers of both common support structures for society and new projects that build on the common welfare of the society. In the United States, with children younger than ten years old, we make up almost half of the population. This means there will be a great upsurge of Compassionate activity in the future. We have a lot of flexibility in our career choice. When we are in a job, people want us to be their boss. Our jobs depend on what we feel motivated to do. If the job is uplifting, it doesn’t matter what it is; however, if the job is suffocating, we have to leave it.

  • Implementer Primary — We want to experience the momentum of doing things the best way possible. Our drive for precise efficiency sets the standard for performance. While we could get caught in ‘doing’, the key thing we contribute is a sense that everything will work out. It is our clarity and comfort with challenges that allows others to relax. While there are many more Secondary Implementers than Primaries, particularly in the United States, we persevere by encouraging others to get out of the way when they do not know what they are doing. It takes confidence, grit, and a determination to succeed making it obvious to others that we should be in charge. Inventors have been mainly recruited here the military. Any kind of organizational or operational job with appropriate responsibilities is great for us.

  • Inventor Primary — We want to experience how our creative ideas change the world. Creating or recognizing key options that will produce long-term impacts fulfills us. During the last sixty years, we have been prominent, as seen by a rebirth in individualism in the United States. Our unwillingness to conform to the status quo has made us a country of rebels. Our desire for freedom and our capacity for out-of-the-box thinking have forced others to take note of us. The ideas we have generated and sponsored have finally expanded to a place where we know we are capable of doing whatever we desire. Now we are wondering how the young group of Compassionate Primaries coming into the United States will reintegrate us as a group. Since we do not like to work for others in traditional ways, we are on the forefront of creating new technologies, implementing new ways of doing things and, in general establishing our own businesses.

  • Investigator Primary — We want to understand why the world works the way it does. Transforming knowledge into Wisdom permits us to be useful in making world progress. We are still a driving force in our society with our focus on academia, documenting the progress of many different areas of development and scientific research. In the United States, our predominance in higher forms of education has gained us some notoriety. The main issue to confront is, “Can we move from knowledge to wisdom?” so that society can engage the process in a balanced way with us. Otherwise, the types of learning we teach will not match their ability to interact or process the information. Investigators can be found in all professions and activities, providing feedback about what is working and what is not working.

  • Visionary Primary — We want to be able to inspire growth under adverse circumstances. It is our independence and ability to create context that supports us in manifesting miracles. In the last millennium, we have been responsible for the acceptance of agape love in human expression. We are continuing this mission today. Now we are focusing our efforts on big-picture problems like global warming, ecology, recycling, extinction of animal species and we are effectively mobilizing support for these activities. We also excel at childrearing, foundations, product evangelism, and the health and healing professions. Our greatest gift is to bring about a unification of aspirations on an emotional level so that committed movements can awaken new possibilities. We also are contributing by doing therapy, coaching clients, and promoting commitment to spiritual expression. We are now seeking more practical ways to make a difference in the world, which is leading us to many forms of networking and wisdom teaching. In the past, we have been the primary group engaged in teaching children.

  • Storyteller Primary — We want to help everyone find his or her place of power in the world. It is our grounded, healing nature and our ability to see the etheric energetic truth that helps us to move any plan forward. In the next twenty to forty years, this group will grow substantially to bring about a leveling of hierarchies so there will be greater democracy in action. In the Aquarian age, there will be a greater emphasis on service and being aligned with Universal Intent. Our greatest gifts are to be able to see patterns, particularly among people, so that activities in groups can be enthusiastically designed and engaged to bring humanity together. Our objective is to bring about balanced, conscious relationships so individuals can maximize their effectiveness and growth. We will accomplish this by building inner awareness tools so that we can work in alignment with others. We are also communicators and seek to build practical solutions that will involve all segments of society. We can be found in management, publishing, politics, human resources, public speaking, and other contributions that require group unity and purpose.

In co-dependent relationships, there is confusion about who is Think-first versus who is Feel-first. For example, a Think-first woman and a Feel-first man will find themselves attracted to and frustrated with each other by experiencing difficulties in their communications. The Think-first woman who wants the truth, needs her partner to appear to provide the truth, even if she knows he’s about harmony. The Feel-first man wants to please the Think-first woman by declaring he wants the truth, but is actually in his heart. He is wondering about how he is going to do this harmoniously. The problem with Idealization is that both partners will compromise themselves to make it better for the other and then come to resent it later. This is because Idealization wants us to be similar so there is less conflict.

Transfigure Idealization occurs when we stop projecting our beliefs on others and automatically expect them to agree with us. One example that is obvious to many individuals is differences in Communication process. There are 7 different Communication sequences: Think, Feel, Act or Feel, Think, Act, which are 2 of the largest groups in the United States. More information about all of these patterns can be found in the Communication Process section of our website. These patterns are commonly attracted to each other. The Think, Feel, Act individuals want the truth and only get into their feelings when they have the time and are with people they trust. The Feel, Think, Act individuals want harmony and attempt to anticipate what people are going to say so that they can quickly respond to them.

Pacing, Decision Making Approach and Communication Process become more important because we want a flowing, interactive relationship. These Compatibility Factors awaken us to the real-time indicators of what works and what does not. Ironically, we tend to become not only more idealistic (on the one hand), but simultaneously seek to ground ourselves in something practical. This naturally occurs because we want to have a counterbalance to these lofty aspirations. The more we are reflected in a positive way, the greater our capacity to trust that we can work out common solutions together. The quality of relationships increases exponentially when we have similar ways of expressing ourselves in these core areas. The anxiety we experience at this level shifts from general insecurities into specific areas of insecurity where we are either not communicating or feel compromised and unable to share our concerns.

It is interesting that there always seems to be Anxiety about our future. This has to do with the fact that many of us do not affirm our full Creative Nature and are not comfortable loving ourselves engaging that nature. This uncertainty is what promotes the comparisons between our selves and others when in reality, there is no one-on-one comparison between ourselves and others. What we need to recognize is that while there is some Anxiety in engaging our Primary Creative Expression, there is even more Anxiety when we do nothing. Over time, we feel more and more stuck if we are not making progress. This is because the universe is growing around us and we are stagnant. This Anxiety can be quantified as the repression and denial of both our Feelings and Emotions. If we were willing to engage our Feelings and Emotions more, this Anxiety would lessen. It would also provide us greater confidence to try out new possibilities to see what fulfill us authentically.

When we accept our Feelings and Emotions, it allows our Context to expand quickly. We can declare new possibilities and imagine solutions immediately. Then it becomes about making real our inward perspectives in an outward way. The more we engage our creativity, the more natural this is. To manifest creativity, we need to take our inward imagination and manifest it externally. We also need to integrate our Context with a unified Intent and Content so that all elements of our consciousness are fully available and present. This process will increase our Worldview, will help us shift out of our Defensive history, and even minimize the engagement of Pretenses. Most importantly, it provides a framework for us to unify our Mental Body and Secondary Expression within our Primary Expression. When we become aligned on this level, it vastly expands our creative power. It also provides us the confidence to try new fields of work or endeavor with those who would be more naturally aligned with us.

To be fully embodied on a creative level, we need to see ourselves as whole and autonomous in our Creative Expression. This means that we have to let go of our attachments and be able to speak without compromise about our Intent. The irony of this situation is that we have to be able to Objectify ourselves in order to release ourselves from the Objectification process. Until we see how we have Objectified ourselves in the past, we cannot see the places we have denied within us. Whenever we believed that our appearances indicated who we were, we believed that we could compromise ourselves without loss. However, there was no such situation because all of our compromises resulted in pain and discomfort; we were just unwilling to experience them. When we Objectify ourselves without denying anything within us, there is no pain. Then the Objectification becomes real. When we are clear about the wholeness of our physical being, then we cannot be Objectified. This means that our experience on the physical level can be nothing but the complete truth. There is nothing left to be denied or hurt. This is how we get to a place where we have experiences that are undeniable. No one else, including us, can distort these experiences without first accepting their distortion.

The problem is that real differences mean we need to learn how to accept our partners, even if they are different. The more we can consciously Transmute our need for agreement into an acceptance that things may not be in agreement, the more likely we will be successful in our relationship. Can we have a relationship that does not appear to match us at the level of ideals? What does it mean about our ability to hope for a better future if this conflict is ongoing and undermines the relationship? Until we complete the process of individuating ourselves, which means accepting that our partner in the way they actually exist, there is no way to build a strong, creative foundation for the relationship. Instead of hoping that things are going to work out, it would be better to examine if we have the desire to deal with these differences up front, particularly in our selection process. If we are already in the relationship, it is much more difficult, because we do not feel we have the right to make a new choice based on new information.

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