Feel, Think, Act Communication Process

holistic, instant, imprecise knowing of what to do

Feel, Think, Act individuals operate from a gestalt or context of what they know (without any details) is so. With this communication process, we are always tuned in to what would be most comfortable and easy to implement. Whenever we are under stress, we feel the need to validate our truth intellectually, by establishing and documenting the details of our perceptual reality. In this process, we explore all viable options until we can see a clear winner. The winner is usually the one which gives us the most potential for results while maintaining our flexibility. When we take action, it indicates that we have moved from being concerned about the choice to accepting the result, whatever it is. Taking action (or getting physical in any way) is naturally relaxing to us because there is no longer conflict between our feelings and thoughts.

Feel First individuals are supported when others connect to them on a feeling or emotional level, allowing them to assess the degree they can trust a person. They experience their passion and power when they are able to share their feelings and motivate others into aligned action with them. They are enthusiastic when others respond to their suggestions and are committed to expressing themselves fully. They know they have accepted themselves emotionally when they can operate with equanimity, serenity and compassion for others. When they feel they understand where others are coming from, they will interact according to how they read others’ motives. When they perceive that others are separate and competitive, they will seek to make sure that the interests and objectives of others coincide with theirs before they take someone else’s advice. When someone is operating from a place of service, they are more willing to listen to them, asking questions that will allow them to provide needed information. They can validate being Feel First by the commitment they have to creating and maintaining harmony both internally and externally in their lives. While others may see this as an unrealistic ideal, it is their baseline.

When Think Second individuals are concerned or afraid that they are either making the wrong choice or are not being understood, they become overly analytical. They can validate that they are Think Second by the time it takes them to figure out how they are going to explain their decisions. Think Second individuals try to anticipate what others will ask them so they have pre-established answers for them. Typically, they believe they have not thought things through enough, even when they have done so. They can further validate that they are Think Second by how much they protect their thoughts from others, over their feeling and actions. They typically feel most vulnerable in their thoughts and therefore attempt to keep others around them balanced so they will not end up at the effect of them. They seek to ascertain the accuracy of every detail and can even become argumentative over the slightest issue of disagreement.

With an Act Last individual, conversations with others become the way they explore various possibilities. The interaction and ebb and flow of information and feelings become the context for the connection with others. For Act Last individuals, they need to get to know people before they are willing to reveal anything of a personal nature. Discussions about the circumstances or a situation where they are seeking advice become a way to explore how they interact and whether they can trust others. When an Act Last is willing to take action, it means they are committing themselves to the process on a deeper level.