Compatibility Issues Around WorldView Differences

WorldView demonstrates the level of consciousness in an individual. Luckily, we are naturally attracted to friends and partners who have similar WorldViews so we can complete lessons with them. As Diagram 15, WorldView Compatibility illustrates, compatibility is best if we are operating within the same WorldView stage. This is particularly important when considering romantic partners. We often choose lower WorldView partners because we feel safe choosing partners like our parents. Over time, we realize that there is no real connection, if we are not on the same page with our life lessons. Compatibility difficulties are also seen in business relationships and long term relationships where one person has stopped growing.

Having friends on both sides of the WorldView spectrum best supports growth and evolution. We must be sensitive that we don’t know other people’s life plan and therefore we must accept when our friends reach growth walls that they cannot seem to climb over. We must also be careful not to mislead ourselves in our assessment of where we are. The higher our WorldView the more capable we are of meeting others where they are and the less attached we are to distinguishing people by differences. On the other hand, when we use these consciousness skills with individuals not in a higher World View, we can confuse them and make it difficult for them to respond.

WorldView level reflects the complexity of the lessons we are engaged in. The more we can see and accept the different WorldView levels of those around us, the more effective we will be in supporting them. Whenever we talk to someone who has a “lower WorldView” than ours, we have to recalibrate what we are saying to where they are, or they will not understand us. This is the top-down view. It will not matter how many times we try telling them what they are doing; they will not be able to hear what we are saying. Sometimes, individuals whom we love and who love us, can temporarily operate in alignment with us if they are in our presence for a considerable period. In this situation our WorldView uplifts them. While they may be able to understand us for this period, as soon as they leave our presence, they start to revert to their previous perceptionsresulting in their forgetting the details of what occurred in our presence. When we are sick, particularly with a life threatening illness, our WorldView is usually temporarily reduced.

The higher our WorldView, the more responsible we are for supporting and being with others around us. This is the actually a bottom-up view. Taking responsibility in a situation is an indication that we are coming into a place of acceptance of our full, creative being and honoring our place in the world. The completion of each WorldView stage supports us in an exponential expansion of our consciousness. While each stage has a particular set of lessons we are mastering, the process is greatly facilitated if we learn how to accept ourselves in a holistic way. This means building a loving connection with our Self, so we are increasingly able to respond to higher creative impulses. The more we are conscious of the integration process, the more we are able to take advantage of our exponential, evolutionary process.

Recognizing the difference in WorldViews between our “Self” and our parents allows us to forgive them, knowing they did the best they knew how. When choosing relationships within our WorldView perceptivity, we support and stimulate our growth. Beyond the Relationship Lesson level, growth in relationships must be mutual. Beyond the Inner Success stage, work expression has to be based on authentic creative expression. Beyond the Personality Integration stage, all work, relationship and Community Service is based on Mutual Accomplishment.

Typically, growing individuals follow this schedule of lessons:

1. Survival (Emphasizes Masculine)
Where we are unconscious, helpless and clueless about how to take care of ourselves. We learn dependency.
2. Safety and Security (Emphasizes Feminine)
Where we become a novice in the process of life, and learn the lay of the land. We begin to learn how to take care of ourselves.
3. Outer Success (Emphasizes Masculine)
Where we expand our personal dominion by learning how to make an impact on the world. People in this “me first” stage overlook the need for quality relationships, and believe they can “buy love.”
4. Relationship (Emphasizes Feminine)
Where we start to pay attention to the well-being of others. We find a partner with whom we feel safe and secure and learn how primitive relationship beliefs need fine tuning. During this stage we sometimes feel it is “you and me against the world.”
5. Inner Success (Emphasizes Masculine)
Where we begin to put relationships, work and community interests together and balance them. The re-evaluation at this stage leads us to realize we have to be connected and in alignment with our spiritual source. This begins the inner work process where motives become transparent, past mistakes obvious, and the need for personality integration clear.
6. Personality Integration (Emphasizes Feminine)
Where we become conscious of defensive patterns and where they lead, revealing the need to balance and heal our masculine and feminine sides. By healing our wounds, we free ourselves from the limitations of fears and desires. We find new ways to support, contribute to and heal others.
7. World Service (Emphasizes Both Masculine & Feminine)
Where we discover the joy and bliss of living an altruistic, soulful life of serving others. Since we have greatly expanded our personal space to include the world, serving others is serving ourselves.

Oftentimes individuals get stuck along the way. This occurs when:
1) our parents are stuck on one level and we are unconsciously imprinted not to go beyond them;
2) our friends are all operating at a particular level and peer pressure keeps us at that level with them; or
3) we become attached to the manifestations of a particular stage that reduces our willingness to keep growing.
It is also true that individuals may skip a stage for a while (such as working on relationships before completing Outer Success) or may operate from two stages at the same time. Recognizing differences in WorldView between us and our parents allows us to forgive them, knowing they did the best they knew how.