Compassionate Intelligence Primary Expression

(Formerly discussed as Server, Interpersonal or Ray 2)

Primary Contribution: Loving Wisdom. The Compassionate Intelligence is defined by its softness, heart connection and loving wisdom more than any other Intelligence.  Compassionates embody patience, strength of purpose and endurance, teaching loving self-acceptance. This happens when a Compassionate first fully loves themselves. The greater their self-love, the more Compassionates are able to extend this love to everyone else, without requiring anything in return.  The key issue is for them to embody and maintain their own ineffable radiance. Everyone wants Compassionates to participate in their activities because of their natural ability to unify and support the well-being of others. A Compassionate’s capacity to meet people and their true needs and to help others find personal answers to their larger problems endears Compassionates to everyone. The Compassionate Intelligence, therefore, becomes the center of any activity, and, with the ability to see what others need, encourages expansion and growth in those with whom they connect.

Compassionates are easily able to take things in stride and deal very calmly in crisis situations. Compassionates are effective in emergencies, because others immediately come to trust their support of them. Eventually, Compassionates get to a place where they recognize they have built a network of support, which is not only sustainable to them, but can also support large numbers of new people. Having at least one Compassionate Intelligence individual working in a situation can benefit any project. Ultimately, it is the Compassionate’s sensitivity to what is going on around them and their ability to know what is needed in a situation, which makes them indispensable to others. It is important to recognize that Compassionates tend to see others from a personal point of view and demonstrate extreme empathy, compassion and identification, which others either like or dislike.

Leadership Style: Expanding Individual Potential. The Compassionate Intelligence leadership style demonstrates extraordinary faith and confidence in people. In this way, people become more inclined to step up and perform in a way that amazes even the Compassionate. Their leadership style is to be a steward who protects, supports and encourages the best in any situation. The Compassionate Intelligence focuses on Content in order to structure workable solutions, which matches their Intent and Context. In this way the Compassionate Intelligence acts as a bridge by connecting people to a process effectively by focusing people on their personal goals. A Compassionate’s ability to translate personal goals into transpersonal organization accomplishments is key. When Compassionates know the degree to which others are connecting with them, management can respond if and when needed.

When things do not go well, Compassionates can be forgiving; however, they can be very controlling, when others do not respond as required. Until these individuals perform at an acceptable level, Compassionates will demonstrate their displeasure by minutely checking these people’s work. On the other hand, top performers earn more room to make errors and are given greater latitude to find new ways to contribute. Mistakes made in the pursuit of excellence are completely forgiven, while individuals who withhold or do not perform are quickly put on notice.

Development Process: Compassionates work best one on one, slowly bringing individuals into their circle of Self-Understanding. The Compassionate Intelligence focuses on the Common Good of the group, using a one-on-one perspective. When fully empowered, Compassionates are not attached to any point of view, which can be verified by the experience of others feeling spacious when around Compassionates. In this way, they are the most adaptive on an emotionally energetic level. Their gift is to be able to automatically sense the Feelings and Emotions of others, which can then be used to help others create the necessary motivation to perform well. While the Compassionate Intelligence is very structured in the delivery of their contribution, they are very soft as well. They learn to use their vulnerability to facilitate growth, both internally and externally. It is important to respect a Compassionate’s Feelings, as they will interpret any attack on their Feelings as an attack on their Being. Others become enemies of Compassionates, when they are too rough or judgmental, particularly about personal things. What they fear is that others who are judgmental can discount them behind our backs.  Their core issue is a fear of being manipulated. In this scenario, Compassionates typically stand up for the Common Good and keep others from enforcing judgments indiscriminately. For this reason, everybody wants to be their friend, and they can garner overwhelming offers of protection.

Primary Blindness: Compassionates can become victims of circumstances wherein their own expectations or attempts to support others become obligations which overwhelm them. What they fear is to be in bondage to those to whom they are committed, which is one reason why it takes time for them to develop the trust to be close to others. They also can become attached to the highest possibilities of the people around them, which undermines the clarity of their boundaries. When undeveloped, it is easy for them to become martyrs, because they unconsciously merge with people or agendas, which are bigger than themselves. When Compassionates hide their inner light, selfish and separative impulses override their loving nature, resulting in their having to fight for what they need. In extreme cases this can become a hyper-competitive framework, where they completely distance themselves from others. While this can be effective in hierarchical organizations, it becomes more problematic in flatter, decentralized organizations, where teamwork is required. They then can use knowledge to overshadow their own Wisdom, leading them to seek satisfaction and security in material objects and structures. In this situation, they can become obstacles to growth and change.

Identifying Characteristics: Tranquil clarity, internal self-reflection, general common sense, natural love-wisdom, equanimity and serenity most identify Compassionates. Over time, they develop strong intuitive skills, which can be insightful as well as coolly deliberate, discriminating, and focused. They are either approachable or not based on our degree of self-actualization.

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The values of a Primary Compassionate Intelligence is developed in three stages. In stage one, the Compassionate Intelligence operates in a state of Inner-Connected Expansion, where everyone is valued and acknowledged for their presence. This is seen by others as being translucent and available. They create a space of joy and harmony, where everyone feels safe. They are the protectors of humanity, because they embody the qualities of Love and Wisdom more than other Creative Intelligence. Most individuals consider the experience of being with Compassionate Intelligence Primaries as illuminating. This also reflects their Faithfulness, Grace and Serenity under fire. Their Selflessness is a teaching in itself. All of these values show up to the degree that they are able to love themselves and radiate this love into the world. Their key contribution is to help others become more self-loving because they are being self-loving. They commonly accomplish this by trying to reframe problems into opportunities. They use personal appreciation, acknowledgement and a commitment to making the lives of others work to back up this inner perspective.

When a Primary Compassionate is operating in a polarized way, they are typically creating a space that others do not know how to relate to. This is because they want to see everything in a positive framework and end up denying any negative perspective. They then create a space where they have to prove a commitment to something beyond them, or bigger than themselves, before willing to allow others to support them. In this way, their Dedication and Devotion can cause polarization because they are imposing a structure or standard on a situation which others may be uncomfortable or not in alignment with. This dissociation occurs because the negative reality of others is not being affirmed or acknowledged. Sometimes, in extremes, this could lead to making others wrong for hanging onto a problem and not engaging possibilities. On the other hand, it can definitely help in certain situations, where there is too much identification with the problem. Outwardly, this can be manifested in varying degrees of independence and toughness, where they are afraid to let people see their own doubt and vulnerability.

In unactualized Compassionate Intelligence individuals, they can be fixated on rules and structure, not willing to grow. Also in the unactualized states, they can centralize themselves around an activity where they are valued for caretaking rather than being loving. Compassionates have to learn how to take small steps to recover their own aspirations so they can escape the conformity and passivity of their life. We see, in the Undeveloped Compassionate Intelligence, the result of contraction and control, because they were not loved or affirmed as being loving. Paradoxically, Compassionates who are treated this way become selfish, which is the opposite of their Authentic Nature. It is easy for Compassionates to lose themselves in their attempts to live for others, which is further amplified if there is Compassionate Intelligence imprinting over their authentic Primary Compassionate Intelligence energy.

Eventually, however, in their evolution, the Compassionate’s Heartfulness, Openness and Tolerance will invite others to step into a higher possibility without self-judgment. The most important thing others can do to honor Compassionate Intelligence Primaries is to acknowledge their capacity to love in ways, which may be beyond other’s abilities to appreciate. When Compassionate Intelligence Primaries are able to be loving and open, they are extremely trustworthy. This is because they know how to balance their contributions with taking care of themselves. When they are conscious, what they seek most is to deepen everyone’s creative connection to each other, by making sure that each individual loves themselves. We call this process “inner connected expansion”, because it is about bringing all aspects of our being together in a loving, co-creative manner. The Compassionate’s keynote is “centralized expansion of consciousness”, which comes into focus when others can be with the Compassionate without demands or attachments. Compassionates relax when others trust them and are able to unite in their perceptions of the world. One of their difficulties is that when there is a strong philosophical difference of opinion, it can interfere with the Compassionate’s ability to connect. Therefore, it is important not to push Compassionates in a way, which accentuates differences. Compassionates are surprised and amazed when others are committed to serving them in this way because someone is doing for them what they constantly do for others.

Compassionates are receptive, open, inclusive, non-decisive, and abstract in their nature. Their internal development reflects a slow rotation, which creates a spherical space where everything can be brought together. They expand or explode imbalances and obstructions in Content (expressed as structure or details), releasing Wisdom and Light. They are called the Compassionate Intelligence, because they primarily deal with what they know about themselves and how this relates to what they know about others. Common understanding is the goal as Compassionate individuals learn how to share their Knowing. Relatedness, not distinctiveness, drives the thought processes for Compassionates. For this reason, Compassionate’s Thoughts are more amorphous and somewhat unfocused. When undeveloped, some would consider this type of Intelligence firm or hard, particularly when not understood. Others may not appreciate that the Compassionate’s type of mental process slowly evolves and become less fixed over time and with experience.

Compassionates tend to evolve in their views as they learn about their own natural boundaries and the boundaries of others. Metaphorically, they primarily represent the mother or feminine framework (where being present with others enables them to deepen). For this reason they are commonly seen as a reflective Intelligence which affirms the nature of others. Since they are committed to wholeness, this prevents them from becoming judgmental or cutting (however, they do resist making decisions until something is clear). Compassionates take input from others with the intention of finding a middle ground, so they can contribute without needing to pre-define what occurs.

One of the primary contributions Compassionates make to others is by being an example of being devoted to the possibility of Love. This devotion occurs because they want others to know that they are always available for conversations of this nature. Unfortunately, when people are not willing to love themselves, it becomes very irritating and upsetting for them to hear. Depending on others’ Worldview, others may become competitive by trying to prove they love others more or better than Primary Compassionates. While it is useful to stimulate these types of conversations, it is completely frustrating for a Primary Compassionate because others want to reduce Love to a thing, behavior, obligation, agreement or seduction program. When Primary Compassionates feel pulled down by these personality expressions of love, the greater work they have to uplift these individuals. This creates tension, where individuals who are not loving themselves, “push back” those with Primary Compassionate Intelligence by making them feel they are unusual, outside the mainstream, or naive about love. What others notice is that when Compassionates talk about Love, something is very different and unusual, which can actually scare the listener.

This is particularly true in the United States or anywhere else where the Primary Compassionate Intelligence is in small minority. It is interesting to notice that in Asian cultures where Primary Compassionates comprise a much larger percentage of the population, that conversations around Love become a foundational element. In this circumstance, Radiant Self Unifying Love, reinforced by conversations about creativity is much more sought and accepted. This is due to the extreme amount of reflection possible in a culture where the Compassionate Intelligence is valued. This is why “saving face” by honoring that people may want to withdraw when something goes wrong or when credibility is lost, is accepted as a practical solution.

This conversation is very different than those with the Visionary Intelligence (the other, Inspiration Expression) because it demonstrates a more feminine openness or vulnerability, allowing Primary Compassionates to be constantly discovering more opportunities to explore higher expressions of Love. In contrast, Visionary individuals became more fixated on what they know and are less open to having Love transform their lives. We can validate this by the greater degree that Primary Compassionates are able to be present in the moment and respond to love in a more simultaneous manner. The key here is to respond “with” someone and not “to” someone. This capacity to move and respond to others in the moment is a unique capacity of Primary Compassionates. This reflects the reality that empowered Compassionates source the experience of love internally and use it proactively to bring others into engagement with them. In essence, they use the Music of Love to coordinate activities of groups so individuals are more able to reflect on their own creative contribution to the whole.

The core teaching of the Primary Compassionate Intelligence is that everyone should be treated as a human being, regardless of sexual orientation, race, age, or economic status. This is due to their larger contextual focus where everyone needs to honor each other to be able to create a culture, which is fulfilled. Compassionates are committed to being examples of how nurturing builds the interconnections between people and allows the experience of Unity with others as a tangible goal. To the degree they get caught up in more personal expressions of love is the same degree that they have a history of their Creative Intelligence being discounted and disregarded by others. The Compassionate’s big challenge, therefore, is to live their ideal in a world where Love fulfills them, while being able to personally ground Love without being attached or compromised by others. This can happen when we can love from the bottom up by seeing that Love’s personal expression is integral to the higher notions of what love can be in the world. Each time Compassionates take a stand for being inclusive with Love, by seeing how the smaller expressions of love can connect to the whole, they become a Teacher of Love.

Another aspect of the feminine expression of the Primary Compassionate Intelligence is how they experience themselves as a “mother” of both humanity and the planet Earth. Their power arises from their ability to integrate and make whole the motivations that bring everyone together. The experience of the Compassionate Intelligence is holistic and focuses on people as a group to make change occur and, in general, is self reflective and adaptive. This contrasts those Compassionates who are primarily self-focused, egotistical and expressing power through the direct outer manipulation of circumstances and not being self-reflective. This is why the highest contribution for a mother with a child is to make sure that that child can be autonomous and grow by teaching them to take appropriate risks in their life. When the Compassionate Intelligence is compromised in individuals it leads to overprotection and ultimately the suffocation of children in their own Creative Expressions. The more a Compassionate Intelligence initiates creativity from their place of power, the more they change the Context of any individual, partner or group. While outwardly this change usually shows up as an increase in the ability of an individual to love themselves inwardly, outwardly it shows up as a person’s capacity to be more true to their Authentic Nature.

The Compassionate Intelligence is a constantly evolving, deepening Intelligence, which embraces Mystery as a key component of its True Nature. In the outer world, the Orchestrating Intelligence is thought of as more masculine because of its order and structure, while the Compassionate Intelligence is considered more feminine because it encourages undefined exploration with no set goals. The Compassionate Intelligence embodies a comprehensive, inclusive wholeness, which contains possibilities but which may not organize them in any consistent way. This Intelligence empowers individuals to work most effectively in environments where Stillness and Quiet allow possibilities to emerge. Hence, they either need to be alone to do their own processing, or need to bring others into a coherent, open way of connecting to their process by accepting and valuing their own Inner Knowing. This tendency to synthesize understanding with others paradoxically tends to minimize direct personal analysis, because much is commonly left unsaid (but implied for those who have ears to hear). This supports mutually created solutions defined by those sufficiently conscious to know the choices possible in each moment.

Sometimes others become upset over the passivity and time required for a Compassionate to produce self-validated, illumined solutions. Compassionates like to operate outside a set time frame. Others can resist this style and get triggered by the Compassionate’s lack of intellectual structure or time focus. This is because Compassionate Primaries may define what is important by their emotional perspective and priorities as to what is important. The Compassionate Intelligence therefore, can vary their decision-making process length from virtually instantaneous to an unpredictably infinite amount of time. Compassionates focus on where others are connecting on various Motive levels. The higher the Motive (e.g., the Intuitive Motives of Universal Dominion, Conscious Participation, and Mutual Accomplishment) and alignment to those Motives, the more Compassionates trust and respond in a moment to moment basis. The effect of this process is that the lower the Instinctive Motives (e.g., Lust, Greed and Arrogance), the more likely Compassionates procrastinate or do not trust the situation. Compassionates ponder on the infinite Unity of the Thought process so that when a decision will be made it can be predictable. A Compassionate’s sensitivity to the quality of Goodness itself makes them feel repulsed by anything selfish and self-serving, particularly when it comes at the cost of others’ welfare. Strong, comprehensive, detail orientation is often correlated with what appears to be slow, pondering, labored interactions. A Compassionate’s desire to be kind and soft towards others makes them appear to be resistant to getting things done, when in fact they are just seeking a framework where mutual wisdom can best occur.

One of the problems Compassionates confront is that they unconsciously self-sacrifice when others do not live up to their ideas of what should happen. It’s easy for them to get caught up in the glamour that they are making the decision on a principled basis and others should learn from their example. Unfortunately, it is very rare that others learn from their sacrifice, even if they go to extreme lengths to explain it. What would be a better response is conscious sacrifice where we know we are giving something up, not for others, but for making something better for us inside. For example, it would be better to choose to give up something and do it for internal reasons than be reactive and try to teach someone else a moral lesson. Again, this indicates that Compassionates tend to define themselves in terms of others instead of honoring themselves for their authentic Creative Capacity.

The more Compassionates are in touch with true, conscious service where they, by example, demonstrate Goodness, the more likely others are going to respond by learning from their Goodness without having to do anything at all. To accomplish this, Compassionates need to place themselves in situations where their Goodness can lead. Hierarchical environments with preset positions minimize their natural contribution. They cannot be the Radiant, Loving Beings they are when they need to define ourselves in terms of others. The more Compassionates are expected to fit in and fulfill the needs of others without first being honored for their natural harmonious and loving qualities, the less they shine.

At the heart of the Compassionate Intelligence is the feminine quality of Spacious Presence. When they are truly being their Self they are able to be with others without any resistance or denial of their Self and others’ Authentic Selves. Paradoxes arise from the differences they experience but do not limit them. The more Compassionates are able to express their feminine qualities without taking on the role of having to mother others, the more natural fulfillment and self-satisfaction they will experience. This acknowledgement will also makes it possible for them to honor the masculine within themselves on a much deeper level. When they honor their inner masculine self, this is commonly experienced as Pregnant Duration, where honoring that any truth or support they need will automatically be forthcoming, if they can get out of our own way. With Pregnant Duration they learn to trust that anything that occurs has a purpose and can be a stimulus for their internal transformation process. Not only do they learn to provide space for others, they learn to provide the time they need to interact with others in a way that serves both.

Understanding The Compassionate Intelligence

What people do not understand about the Primary Compassionate Intelligence is that they believe in the basic expectation to be loved and that love is the most important thing. Love being the foundation of everything creates a capacity to bring out love in the others around them. Without this flow and feeling of connected, loving support, they do not think they are doing their job well. It is only through feedback that they begin to see how profound their impact is upon others. There are three other factors, which contribute to having appropriate feedback and being understood. They are Appropriate Assertiveness, Over-Inclusiveness and Getting Lost In Learning. In each situation, Compassionates need to know how to best guide others to connect with them. Sometimes they get caught up in their own processing and they do not ask for the support we need to move forward. To the degree they forget their own goals and themselves, it is likely that they are not assertive and providing appropriate feedback to others. They often wait for others to provide guidance or suggestions and they want others to step forth and take charge.

Compassionates need to be willing to speak up or they will never have equal co-creative partners in their projects. Finally, Compassionates need to learn to distinguish between how much research/learning they need to do to solve any particular problem and hold themselves accountable to checking in with others when the time allotted exceeds their expectations. Otherwise, their complaints about Creative Flow are irrelevant and meaningless. Until Compassionates become more sensitive about how to work with others, they are setting themselves up for misunderstanding in many ways.

The Compassionate Intelligence can be over-engaged by projecting onto others the need for personal consideration and goodness to prevail, which may overwhelm their ability to be present with someone in the moment. When over-engaged, Compassionates tend to focus on how others’ reactions affect them. While a Compassionate’s goal is to minimize impacts, they also try to divert the angst and fears away from others. When others discount or deny their Compassionate Intelligence, they fixate on their own, internal issues and fears, which keeps them from expressing themselves and they can become passive observers. Compassionates can become internally insulated, isolated, and withdrawn because they have projected their Intelligence onto others who are not seeing it the way they do. This can lead them to resist common goals and to establish personal alliances and loyalties in order to guarantee their safety and security. When they are not engaging their authentic Intelligence, they become judgmental and reactive to those who try to impose demands upon them. They can become extremely territorial and fixated on how to maintain a connection with those who are allied with them. The result of denying themselves and not engaging their Primary Intelligence results in greater self-critical dialogue. The key to expressing their Primary Compassionate Intelligence is to create emotional balance within themselves so they operate effortlessly in a Creative Flow within themselves and with others.

This requires that Compassionates accept their Authentic Nature and way of doing things and not create obstacles to their Authentic Expression. When the Compassionate can accept their unique Creative Power to bring people together by being conscious of both internal and external differences with others. The more they fear, the more they tend not to engage their unification skills and be an example of internal reconciliation. At the other extreme, they can over-engage their desires and become attached to them, generally overwhelming their ability to be natural and flowing in their expression. The solution is to be present with both their fears and desires so they do not have to act out these issues with others. The more they can make it ok to have these experiences, the less charge Compassionates will carry and triggered by others around them. When Compassionates are overwhelmed and/or discounted by individuals who do not accept their Primary Intelligence, they become extremely concerned that there is something they do not understand or appreciate about themselves and need to explain.

In conclusion, it is important to remember that the Compassionate Primary Intelligence provides the space of being who they are, which determines how they gain fulfillment. Fulfillment shows up as the capacity to integrate groups of people with simple Emotions and Feelings, communicating Love. The Compassionate Primary Intelligence grows and deepens through the phrase “I see the greatest light.” The Compassionate Intelligence is extremely sensitive to light and sound and are considered the individual Sensitives.

This is different from a Secondary Expression, which focuses on how to obtain security by being successful, defined by the quality of their relationships. What Compassionate Secondaries seek is the capacity to unify those they love so there is little to no conflict where love can be optimally expressed and acknowledged.

The Tertiary Intelligence, focuses individuals on safety and determines how they are seen in their family of origin. They create safety by ignoring conflicts and differences while focusing on the qualities that make them feel loved and accepted. The core issue is how do they take charge of loving themselves so they do not need the love of others to reinforce their self identity.