Physical Discernment

Lesson 11: Owning Our Truth About Relationships

Introduction

Physical Discernment is the ability to know what we need to do at any particular time. It begins with acknowledging our own timing and honoring our internal creative cycles. As we demonstrate mastery in being able to check in with our physical presence at any time or circumstance, we gradually become able to see where others are as well. While Physical Discernment may not be as “informational” focused as Intuitive Discrimination, it is absolutely reliable when it comes to doing the right thing at the right time. When we have a partner in a state of Physical Discernment with us our activities automatically synchronize and our senses are heightened. We become able to discern opportunities that are not available outside of this empowered state.

Physical Discernment is a state of Faith in our partners and ourselves. When we have doubt, it undermines Physical Discernment. When individuals distrust their own physical body’s input, they operate in a state of being untrustworthy. The problem is that they do not know how to interpret their own inner experience. What they need to do is distinguish what is an affirmative sign and what is a warning sign. This distinction allows them to move in the world in a more inclusive and outgoing way. When we deny these inner signs or refuse to listen to them, we find ourselves in a state of dis-ease or disease. In short, this is a state of non-alignment.

The Motive of Universal Dominion and the Attraction of Wisdom enhance Physical Discernment. Universal Dominion is the capacity to meet others without judgment and commune with them. Wisdom is the capacity to attract individuals to us who are on the same intellectual wavelengths. With these abilities we get to the core of our Creative Nature. We get to see how complicated we have made things that do not need to be so complicated. We start to understand that our Truth about relationships is fairly common and simple. What we want are partners who can meet us in our Skills. Until we accept our own internal Skills, it is hard to attract others with these Skills. We can also begin a relationship with an individual who shares the same skills and work to expand our Skills, in order to see our real possibilities in relationships.

Universal Dominion is the ability to be present with others while simultaneously being present with ourselves.It is the capacity to create space to Experience relationship without being enmeshed or limited in our ability to be connected with another. Most individuals Experience it as an absolute Freedom to be who they are, as they want to be, with us. Usually, they appreciate us because they know we never judge them, deny them, or limit their expression in any way. By being an example of this space, and being able to invite them into the Experience, they gradually come to recreate it within themselves that supports its natural spread in the world. Wisdom is the capacity to combine and respond to different Intelligences at the same time and the ability to navigate between them. Wisdom accepts no substitutes for the Truth. Ideas are both whole and complete, or they are not. Wisdom is the ability to translate one framework of wholeness and translate it so another framework can utilize it. In this way, Wisdom is the interconnecting framework or all knowing. Some people may say that Wisdom is the opposite of specialization. This bridging function is only possible when individuals do not assume Positions and do not attempt to protect and defend what they know. Otherwise, we are falling back into the Idealized framework where knowledge is power.

Wisdom is considered to be Feminine because it is not based on structure or outer detail, but reflects the synthesized heart or truth of the matter. The more we operate in Wisdom, the more others will not react with what we share, but instead respond to the Truth as we see it. It is important that we don’t get attached to their understanding it the way we do. For this actually sets the stage for falling into Positions. Universal Dominion and Wisdom allows us to be flexible about how we show up and how we respond to others. Physical Discernment enables us to sense this Balance in our body awareness (using Sensations and Feelings) and distinguish, call forth and enact what is needed next. Physical Discernment helps us to keep grounded our Experience of the Truth so we have many practical ways we can demonstrate its effect. It also helps us to see that our inner truth was always present within us, which means we can ultimately Trust ourselves. In this way, our IntuitionBalances our inner physical knowing and confirms we are seeing what is. Our ability to respond helps us embrace new opportunities, both in relationships and work expressions. Ultimately, we learn to see the Connection between our inner Experience and what we externally manifest.

Owning our truth about Relationships is more a general statement, than a particular one. This is because everything is in relationship to everything. We have relationships within ourselves, with our work Experience, and in every Connection we make to every person we meet. All are reflections of our lessons because each one provides a new doorway to seeing our own wholeness. The more we recognize that every individual is a gift for us to engage, the more we will come into our power to see how the Universe personally supports us in our world. While this may be difficult to accept, we are energetic beings within its domain that on one level or another it is using to Consciously or Unconsciously guide us. The variety of Experiences confirm how it is our internal Beliefs, Motives and Attractions, that set us up for the kinds of interpretations we make about the Universe. It seems that the natural order underlying all of this is the strongest indication that there is the Universal Intent that is guiding and supporting our development.

Universal Dominion

Universal Dominion is a state of being where we create our own Safety internally, through Conscious creative Presence, allowing Mutual Respect and Autonomy to manifest. When we are operating in Universal Dominion, we are able to embrace everyone where they are and to honor their Presence with us. This only can occur when we are fully present within ourselves, enabling us to recognize where others are and how to meet them there. The Experience of Universal Dominion means that we create our own Safety and we operate in Cooperation with the Universe as a co-creator. This means we no longer see ourselves as only a limited physical form and can appreciate the metaphysical nature of our being. We no longer are attached to any possession or outer appearance, because “things” do not provide a true sense of Safety. For Unconscious people Safety is created through appearances or by their possessions. With Universal Dominion we begin to appreciate how whatever is needed is always provided and that we do not have to possess objects in order to use them as a resource. We can identify people operating in Universal Dominion by their sense of Serenity and Self Presence. In short, they are available to those around them without being judgmental of their circumstances in any way.

Everyone is now invited to Trust our Creative Self more fully. Our highest Feminine expression is established when we no longer compromise our needs for those of others’, or others’ needs for our needs. When we are able to see and honor the personal and the transpersonal equally, without compromising either, we have a way of connecting to what emerges from our Presence and being. Our power to create space within our Self allows us to not take personally the perspective of others, particularly when they are not trying to hurt us. Owning our potential Projections where Fears may be manipulating our perspective support our being harmless to others. Our desire to be harmless is fulfilled when we honor their truth without negatively comparing it to ours.

We need to be able to be present with the Paradoxes of Experience where are views are different without diminishing their or our truth. In the Common Neutral Ground we can use this process to selectively… imagine bringing together what we agree and disagree with without transferring this Conflict into our own Personal Space. Universal Dominion is the ability to honor our truth and the truth of others in a mutual framework while simultaneously maintaining our personal Autonomy. We only compromise our personal Autonomy when our fear of not being heard and valued for telling our truth causes us to collapse and lie. We can lie either to our self, others or both. Lying primarily prevents us from being present with our self or others.

Since Universal Dominion is a mutual experience, it can only be manifested to the degree that we are willing to accept responsibility for ourselves and not project our issues on others. Let us endeavor to own our Projections as a way to receive interesting feedback from others. While we may or may not be projecting in any situation, feedback from others allows us to be open to seeing the degree our Projections cause reactions in others. This is informative because then we know how others may inadvertently be hurt. Let us be cognizant of how our perceptions are either being taken personally or discounted preemptively, minimizing Universal Dominion. Let us become more effective in inviting others to honor their own truth, so they will not need to distance our truth. When we realize that all reactions are reflections of someone not honoring their own truth and believing that others have more power in expressing themselves, then we will take the appropriate action to create a mutual space where everyone’s truth can be said and heard. We know we have reached a place of complete Trust when we have eliminated the need for Adoration.

In Universal Dominion we become Conscious of the pain and lies that limit our ability to connect to others. To the degree we are in denial about our pain and white lies, is the degree we are not able to identify and anticipate the pain of others. When we are open, our ability to honor our deeper truths, allows us to release and heal the pain. This is why we typically imagine going through many levels of release as we are seen, heard and valued for our authentic creative nature. We call this the unpacking process. It is helpful to sincerely acknowledge how we have previously wronged others to recover our lost innocence. The result is an energetic rebirth where our Presence, Aliveness and Wisdom combine to overcome any remaining internal obstacles. We naturally seek to apologize to others for any perceived slights because we realize these types of attachments only drain us. Our energetic sensitivity is actually a major benefit in manifesting Universal Dominion because it alerts us to each individual’s relationship compromises with us, both Conscious and Unconscious. As we become adapt at recognizing and discussing these limitations, we discover how deep and wide we can go in every relationship to maximize our Connection.

The three belief structures of Romance, Motives, and Love lose their power whenever we are present and able to operate from our creative nature. See the diagram Related Universal Dominion Beliefs.Beliefs only support and reinforce personality concerns. Beliefs are primarily used to offset Safety Fears and in this way provide a form of artificial reassurance. Universal Dominion is a Conscious state of being, which encourages us to release our Beliefs and settle into our Feminine power. The Self Presence of Universal Dominion does not require the reassurance of belief to engage life. Only the duality of the lower nine Motives require Beliefs to offset our fear. We can embody our Feminine power by declaring our Self as part of the Universe by acknowledging our responsibility to respond and uplift it as a natural part of our evolutionary process. Our Connection to the Universe manifests as an inner Safety where we do not live in fear.

Universal Dominion is where we take our rightful place as a Co-Creator. We most often Experience this expanded sense of interaction as being in a “creative flow.” In this process we learn how to dance with what is needed by the Universe’s response to us in any particular endeavor. From a personal point of view, we learn to surrender to the process and realize that our participation is required for the Universe to fully manifest its potential. This opportunity does not mean that we can assert our ideas on the Universe or make demands from it. It does mean, however, that we are able to grow in our internal knowing about how to serve the larger Universal Intent without compromising our own personal will.  Ultimately, this process teaches us our divine origin.

Most people view Universal Dominion as more passive than active because it works from the deepest core outward. They mistake concealment with passivity because they are unaware of internal movement. At the heart of Universal Dominion is the Life Energy and fiery expression that is latent in each atom. The Feminine Consciousness, therefore, is contained behind the forms we engage in the world and it always works from the invisible to the visible. The outer form is the cover that hides these energetic shifts. The messages that we receive also typically show up as changes in outer form and structure which we must learn to interpret in ways where we shift our Attention from that which is on the surface to that which resides within the core of the change. The Paradox of this process is that what is changing externally may reflect previous internal changes that now are coming into focus as requests to embody new ways of being. In this way the Feminine bursts into awareness without any warning.

Universal Dominion also reflects that we have let go of our attachments to others trusting us because of our external Commitments and communications. We need to recognize that our strength increasingly by working with others in a state of Universal Dominion. This state is powerful because in it each individual is autonomous, Self-correcting, and Self-affirming in their own knowing. From the Feminine point of view everything is in a state of becoming, but the Paradox is that it is also perfect exactly the way it is. The universal Feminine can only be embodied when we are no longer attached to evolution and change. The Paradox is that in the Context of this change (or everlasting becoming) there is a completion in which the perfection of the entire process has always been and will always be. Being is manifested in a state of becoming which is continually revealing itself in the change and regeneration around us. It is difficult to conceive and hold the ideal of the Universe because we are always in a state of evolutionary change and Growth.

We manifest our Feminine power most effectively by being present to the diversity of the Universe and realizing that everything is manifesting in the best way possible to fulfill its evolutionary Intent. By seeing the perfection of what is, we can dance with divine Intent in a way where our participation enriches it. We take a stand for our creative contribution to be incorporated in this process in whatever way is best for the process itself. Most individuals would feel more comfortable if our contribution was manifested in a way that reinforced the idea of our creation. In other words, it is easier to deal with our contribution being in a particular way when it is acknowledged and validated outwardly by the Universe. The challenge is that this may not be in accordance with what is needed in the situation. In other words, the way we contribute may not be acknowledged or validated by anyone, including our self; and yet, we need to learn to honor and accept that what we are contributing is making a difference.

To manifest Universal Dominion we need to allow change to guide and inform us, while creating the unified knowing that everything is working out just as it needs to. Learning to relax into Universal Dominion requires greater Consciousness about our inner subtle motion (integrating Sensations, Feelings, Emotions, concrete Thoughts and abstract Thoughts), while Paradoxically appreciating the inner stillness from which the Universe emanates. Paradox is the process that allows us to appreciate the Feminine nature in every situation. This femininity connects everything together so that the fullness, richness and diversity of the Universe can inform us of its inherent Unity. Most of our fear is a reflection that we have split off our self from seeing the Unity around us. Our ability to generate our own sense of Safety is only made possible through unifying this diversity and to see its inherent usefulness in the way we have created it. The Feminine power brings a greater degree of Self Acceptance of the way it is so it can manifest its expression freely.

We previously stated that many aspects of the Feminine power are hidden or covered over by the outer form. When we contribute from the Feminine space of Universal Dominion, we frequently have no direct Experience of the impact we make. Some individuals become preoccupied with making an impact that is recognized by others. We see this particularly when people are operating in the mode of Idealized Trust. We need to accept that the contribution we make requires us to take no personal credit. It is enough to recognize that we are being supported in this process and that we do not need to assume that everything we do needs to be recognized as coming from us. Universal Dominion Paradoxically reflects that everyone is part of the process of what is being manifested. From this perspective everything that shows up is a result of our contribution. Looking at things from this perspective, it is also interesting to note how much of what is not showing up reflects collectively our lack of honoring our Creativity and contribution.

Universal Dominion at its core reflects the integrity of things as they are. We cannot split things into good and bad categories without violating the wholeness that reflects our current state of being. Universal Dominion is a state of being where we suspend all Judgments and honor all ways of being. It requires us to honor what is, rather than fixate on what could be. We must not deny what is, because this is the beginning of all evil. We are not talking about evil from a religious point of view, but rather evil as a denial of Light, Life and Love. In effect, it is a blind spot where a potential in the Universe is not manifest because of our lack of participation or Self Connection. Feminine energy honors potential and allows us to engage the larger opportunities around us because it is naturally healing whatever denials may be arising in the situation. Operating from Universal Dominion means honoring the potential of people around us without being attached to whether they manifest that potential.

It is Paradoxical that we seek to encourage the highest manifestations with others and yet we are not attached to whether they fulfill these potentials. This reflects the larger Wisdom that our Beliefs about how others should respond and be are frequently distorted and inaccurate at best. In other words, we tend to believe we know who should contribute what, when in fact these are all Projections that interfere with our inability to see the perfection unfolding. If we were omniscient, we would see and understand what needs to occur in the Universe for everything to be manifest. Universal Dominion is operating with faith in our possibilities without omniscience.

In Universal Dominion we see how everything is being revealed if we maintain our Presence and can be with others without judgment or fear. Judgment closes us down to seeing what really is occurring. Fear focuses us to only see particular aspects of our reality. The value of Universal Dominion is that we begin to see how things fit together and discover where to place our Attention to Consciously support our process of Growth and development. Universal Dominion is therefore a space where our being is connected to Universal Being. By extension everything in the Universe is a part of our process. If we can Experience our Connection with all that exists, it is easy to radiate Serenity. We become a Self organizing, Self referencing repository of Wisdom. In our being, we naturally affirm the Universe in a way that allows us to see its secrets and appreciate the complexity of the interactions between things. Universal Dominion reflects an ownership of all that exists within our sphere of influence. By knowing things from the inside out, we realize our influence and our capacity to support the Universe’s evolutionary process. This arises from being able to create through Intention our on Safety in a world of change. By owning a larger Context, we can influence events in a much more effective manner.

Based upon the clarity of our energy and Intention we become cognizant of how our energy is helping to reorganize everything around us. While every human being has the potential to do this, few of us have stepped into the possibility of operating in a manner that is Consciously supportive to the general well being of the Universe. In effect, by becoming manifestors of Universal Dominion, we all become divine midwives in the birth of this reality. When we appreciate that every individual is “an influencer” in the creation of his or her reality, it becomes clear that our experience is at least in part is based on our unique interpretation. As we embody our Feminine nature, our ability to influence our world increases dramatically. We need to remember that to some degree those around us always influence us. In this way, we grow into more awareness of our ability to direct aspects of our reality as part of our Authentic Life Expression. The more Experience we have with Universal Dominion, the more we learn the natural limits and opportunities afforded us as participants in universal expression. In other words, no matter how effective we become, we are not the only creator in our domain.

Universal Dominion is the divine Feminine motive where we accept that we are all equal and human. Can we operate accepting the rights of others so they will accept our rights? Without this Balance the power of the Feminine is weak and impotent. With this Balance, we are all stronger and more able to meet the larger needs. As our Acceptance of the Feminine reflects how well we manage the distribution of material resources, we will only be abundant and healthy when we honor the rights of every human being to make their own choice. Granting the Autonomy of others is the price for having our Autonomy honored. Universal Dominion is our stand for this way of being. Can we see how confronting our Fears and letting go of any attachments to Beauty, form or material possessions can actually free us? Let us embrace Universal Dominion.

Wisdom

Wisdom occurs only when we have deepened into our Self Knowing and can create understanding with others. In this way, Wisdom is a transpersonal Experience that opens us up to all forms of knowing. At its simplest, it is the ability to mirror the Truth of another so they can see their own reality more clearly. Some would call Wisdom a radiant inner light, which encourages others to deepen their own self-knowing. Others would point to their Experience that everyone knows everything they need to, because it is all within us already. The other side of this is how others can bring out our inner knowing by sharing their own inner Experiences.

Wisdom is, therefore, a mutually developed framework of perception that permits us to use internal shorthand by referencing common understanding and Experiences. The key development process is interchange. This requires Intellectual detachment and the passion to Experience right/wrong without defining our Self in these terms. This is the best way to keep engaging the larger reality around us. The terms Passionate Indifference, Transformation and Vibratory Response capture the shift in perceptions required to manifest our Wisdom. The opposite of Wisdom is getting attached to information and Positions to the point that Intensity manifests.

Physical Discernment

Physical Discernment releases and supports our body knowingto complete our creative re-orientation process. When we are no longer need to prove our Self it awakens our Trust in the Universe. Our sense of timing grows exponentially, as we learn how to synchronize our Intentions with the Universe. In fact the more interaction we have with Universal Intent, the more effective we become in organizing our Personal Intent in terms of Universal Intent. Since what is, Is Universal Intent, it is natural that Being and Becoming more clear about the physical, will support our integration with it. Universal Faith will be the natural outcome of developing Physical Discernment.

Essential Questions:

What is Physical Discernment?
How Do Actions Reflect My Fears, Desires and Past History?
What Do I Have To Learn To Be Physically Discerning?
How Do I Discount Physical Discernment?
What Is The Cost Of Not Operating With Physical Discernment?
How Do We Heal Ourselves With Physical Discernment?

Embodying the skill of Physical Discernment means becoming aware of whether or not our Consciousness is aligned with our actions. When we have mastered Physical Discernment, we have the ability to Trust others appropriately because our body tells us when to engage and not engage others. When we lack Trust, we have Safety Fears that arise from being smothered in early childhood, or we have Security Desires where we want others to be there for us in particular ways. We can deal with Safety Fears by Trusting our Consciousness before our action; and we can deal with Security Desires by using action to develop our awareness. When we are not conscious of our physical impulses or aware of the effect we have on others, we can fall into Passive Resistance, where it is difficult to make our own decisions in our own timeframe. Physical Discernment, therefore, is manifested as having a Consciousness that matches our energetic Connection with others.

Passive Resistance is how we deny our own Physical Discernment both internally and externally. When we are not connected to our Selves Intuitively, it makes it more difficult to use our physical body as a reflective framework to see the larger correspondences outside of us. Physical discernment is the ability to tune into our physical form and read the energetic nature of our bodies’ response to anything we think. In a way this process helps us to integrate our body and mind into a single awareness. The obstacles to using Physical discernment reflect either the Feminine side of us where Safety Fears (being smothered) or the Masculine side of us where Security Desires (needing support) overwhelms our physical energetic capacity. It is not until we learn to neutralize both Personality Fears and Desires by clearing them at their point of origin that we can consistently read our bodies’ sensory in terms of the larger possibilities outside of us.

We can also say that the quality of Physical Discernment is useful only when Intuitive Discrimination lets us read our body Sensations for clues indicating the degree to which we are aligned with Universal Intent. When we attend to our own impulses, we can identify the transpersonal impulses that indicate when we are on track. Transpersonal energetic impulses provide us feedback in our own conversation with our Self. We can Experience an affirmative response by the degree of expansion or a negative response by the degree of contraction in our bodies. The location of the Sensation can also help us to interpret the nature of the message.

Physical Discernment provides guidance about when to act, the correct direction in which to act, and when to be silent and not act. Sometimes, our physical Sensations can provide guidance that many people would consider metaphysical. When we master this skill, we develop the ability to read energy and can tell whether it is congruent or not. For most people, Physical Discernment provides us the opportunity to know when others are speaking their truth or not. This empowers us to know whom to involve in which activity in order to yield the best results. Michael Murphy, co-founder of the Esalen Institute, explores these Connections in his book The Future of the Body.

Our challenge occurs when we are attached to Unilateral Action (which is the opposite of Mutual Learning) or Untrustworthiness (which is the opposite of Physical Discernment), which keeps us from turning into our body Wisdom. Unilateral Action is when we pre-emptively operate as if we will be compromised, by taking action on our own because we are afraid of the influence of others. Untrustworthiness is when we lash out at others (despite their good behavior) because we believe they will discount us. Both of these attachments do not give others the benefit of any doubt, and therefore create what we most want to avoid. If we enact too much Unilateral Action, no one will be willing to work with us. When we are Untrustworthy, no on will engage us. The result is that Co-Creativity is impossible, because we are not in touch with our inner being.

Employing Physical Discernment means learning how to listen to our body Wisdom in order to align our actions with Universal Intent. Through the process of entrainment and coherence on a physical level our body responds to certain suggestions in a way that can be accurately interpreted. One extension of this is muscle testing, where we ask our ‘Self’ questions and determine the answer based on the strength of our physical response. What is revealed is the ‘degree of Alignment’ that different energetic fields have in common with the physical body. Many Conscious individuals make their decisions at least in part after consulting their body Wisdom. Our bodies can indicate when to initiate action, as well as reflect the degree of difficulty (by a change in momentum) in incorporating new elements as part of a creative process.

The benefit of embodying Physical Discernment is that we are able to accept the inner reality that our cells are reflectors of our larger Consciousness. Our body is one of three main access routes to our truth. When Intentions (physical), Content (Intellectual) and Context (Feeling/Emotional/intuitive) are brought together our impulses can inform us of Universal Intent by their responsiveness. We are able to sink into a deeper Self Knowing with Physical Discernment that increases our Trust in the Universe. Without Physical Discernment we Experience limited Self Trust, which keeps us fearful of everyone.

Universal Faith is a virtue that arises from Physical Discernment. The more we are Conscious of our physical choices in the world, the easier it is to make the appropriate choice that will provide the greatest opportunity. When we automatically find ourselves in a creative flow, we know it was the right choice. This then increases our faith in our process so that we increasingly Trust it. Physical Discernment allows us to relax into an inner sequence of actions and non-actions. This lets us avoid the general Resistance that comes when we are not in Alignment with the world in terms of timing. For example, pushing something before its time is right keeps us from manifesting it. The same is true if we do not take action when the world is offering to provide something. When we are in Alignment with our own timing, others also have greater faith in our ability to organize a larger group and its timing. We call this Universal Faith.

What is Physical Discernment?

Physical Discernment is the capacity to consciously reflect upon an action before we act. It involves connecting our spirit, through our soul, to our personality so we act in Alignment while experiencing our Connection to others. Our inner knowing of what is appropriate is contained in the abdomen or Don Tien point. This is what many business people speak of when they talk about operating from their gut. The challenge is that they haven’t typically employed Personality Detachment (to free themselves of Instinctive and Intellectual impulses) or Intuitive Discernment (to engage whole seeing) before using Physical Discernment. If they did, their decisions would be much more effective and productive.

Physical Discernment operates to guide our energy, timing, receptivity and appropriateness in every situation if we allow it. It is nurtured when we have an internal capability to know at all times how we feel energetically, allowing us to calibrate and pace ourselves to the situation in front of us. It is also reflected in our breathing, where a strong, steady Cycle of breathing allows us to get centered and determine the best course of action in that moment. It is also open and receptive to that which is going on around it empowering us to use energies outside of us to facilitate our execution of our actions cleanly. Physical Discernment is about bringing our Intuition into our physical expression, without being attached to any form of outcome. Others can see this Freedom as a form of indifference, but actually, internally, it is experienced as a combination of Life, Light and Love energies within us. With Physical Discernment, we finally come to a place where we are operating in Alignment with Universal Intent.

Physical Discernment, therefore, helps us to see the middle path between the opposites of fear and desire. It requires us to acknowledge that we are not our fear or our personality desire, but a Creative Being that transcends both. If we fall into being identified by either our Fears or our Personality Desires, we end up affirming our personality at the cost of our higher being. Therefore, what we need to do first is make sure we are operating as a Creative Being that is willing to engage the world and seize the day. ‘Carpe Diem’ (means seize the day) and is the Commitment to do what is possible, when it is possible. It does not mean that we submerge ourselves in others to please them, or loose ourselves in mindless activity; it does mean that we are selectively committed to operating in our highest and best interest to do exactly what is necessary to fulfill our highest destiny.

When we balance our Self between Personality Desire and Fear, we can feel their influence but do not feel compromised by either. This allows us to use the ebb and flow of our Experience to facilitate our Growth in a way that is Transformational. We refer to this skill that comes from Physical Discernment as Skillful Means. It requires us to be Conscious about the forces of our personality and our higher Creative Being so that we can discern issues in two dimensions. In addition to the Fear and Personality Desire dimension, there is also the dimension of Personality Detachment, where we determine the highest from the lowest form of expression. When we can see that our optimum Experience is defined by the intersection of these two axes, then we will be able to Consciously maximize our Growth process.

This reflects an inner understanding that attempting to do something that we are not totally aligned to, just because it is the highest possibility that we can conceive of, is almost as bad as doing the lowest possible expression. This indicates that we cannot “fake it until we make it;” instead we have to optimize our expression by being where we are at. This does not mean that we cannot aspire to do more than where we are at, for we are always aspiring to do so. The key issue is to recognize what our capacity is and to engage things on a deeper level. To exceed our capacity means we will not be successful, and we will have a dissociated and disconnected result.

Physical Discernment goes beyond our Self to tune into how others are seeking to grow and develop. Many times, through Physical Discernment, we realize that to optimize our own Growth at the cost of others in our group will actually inhibit and reduce the effectiveness of the group. This means that Physical Discernment helps us to know what is the highest expression for everyone so we can unify our Experiences and get synched-up. This means that the future expression of the group will be more potent and powerful because we have found a way to work more closely together. People commonly call this process creating synergy in the group. Physical Discernment is how we realize what is possible and focus on that, rather than on what we personally would like to do. If we do not like where the group is, we should create another group, not try to make the group conform to our Intentions.

Physical Discernment can also be viewed on a group level by balancing between Fears and Personality Desires and higher versus lower creative expression. These two axes can help to inform us about the capacity of the group to engage a particular lesson or perform a certain activity. The more the group is fixated on its Fears or Desires, the more problematic it is to get unified creative action. The more the group does not understand itself as a Creative Being, the less it will understand how to pick a solution that will maximize our group Experience. This is why it is important to have a group that matches your World View and reflects your Commitment to engage Interdependent Lessons that the group reflects.

The process of Personality Integration is greatly facilitated through Physical Discernment. Over time, we become clearer about where our axes converge and we are able to unify our expression around this focus. When our personality accepts that the Fears and Personality Desires are going to be seen and not acted on, then it can find the right way to function in Alignment with our higher Creative Being. The more we discount or deny our personality, the less we will be able to use the animal energy of the personality in our higher expressions. This is why, over time, we begin to unify our Creative Being with our personality expression. Physical Discernment allows us to identify what is the next step that we need to take in order to bring about this integration process.

The key issue that keeps us from being physically discriminating is our attachment to personal ambition and pride. As we have stated in the Personality Detachment chapter, past repression of our possibilities creates a desire to show others that we can survive and succeed beyond their wildest dreams. This ambition is really based on the repressed Desires and Fears that we won’t ever be somebody. Unfortunately, it is an obstacle unless we can embrace it and transform it into a higher creative expression. Otherwise, in its attempts to fulfill its nature, it can distract us from our true authentic expression enormously. Physical Discernment allows us to recognize when something is out of Balance. Ambition and pride are usually the key components that create imbalance. Until we can find a natural expression for these disassociated energies, they will be a burden that we need to bear.

Ambition is a problem, not because it isn’t right to have higher aspirations, but because it is connected to doing things in reaction to others. This means that we are identified, not with ourselves, but with what others think we can or cannot do in our lives. While our creative energy focuses our contribution in a way that is naturally effective, our ambitions distract us because they focus us to be some way for others. Ambition, therefore, is more about our image than about our inner source or Creative Being. The more we are concerned about our image, the more we are likely ambitious. The premise behind this is that we have got to be someone to get somewhere, which is always building an outer façade at the cost of our inner Creative Self.  It is time now to pull the energy from our image making and invest it in a creative way by being more naturally powerful by being authentic. Ambition is, therefore, Glamour.

Pride is also an attachment to our image, particularly on an Intellectual level, because of what we have accomplished compared to others. While there is no problem with honoring ourselves in what we have accomplished, when we are attached to it, it requires the need to reinforce it to others around us. Projecting pride externally is actually a disservice to those around us, because it impresses them with how we do things; instead, it is important not to reinforce our way of doing things so that others can be creative with us. Pride is, therefore, an Illusion.

How Do Actions Reflect My Fears, Desires and Past History?

What compromises Physical Discernment are Unconscious Habits about action or lack of action. We typically short change Personality Detachment and Intuitive Discrimination and jump right to Physical Discernment before we are ready to actually hear the answers that we internally generate. All of us have Physical Discernment skills for our body anchors our inner knowing and can guide us to appropriate action. Unfortunately, we seldom listen to our body’s Wisdom.

Passive Resistance. When we are overwhelmed in our actions, we become resistant to others defining what to do, and yet, we are unable to define our own truth. We want others to see and accept us as a clear and capable person; but we end up getting caught up in the belief that we are not living up to our image. The more this occurs, the more Unconsciously difficult we become to make others pay for their lack of Appreciation for how we are.

Some of us deny Physical Discernment when we go Unconscious and play out roles. Whenever we are on autopilot we are not able to perceive whether something is working or not working in the moment. The first sign of trouble comes after we crash and burn usually at the cost of our reputation. Instead of going Unconscious, we need to learn to break our Habits and do things out of the ordinary to wake up our true inner capacities. The goal is to recognize that we need to simultaneously connect with our higher knowing and have the courage to act from it. This is the way that we succeed at overcoming our passive resistive stance. We know these types to be Distant.

Safety Fears.  When some of us get polarized, believing we cannot take action because we fear the consequences of that action, we are stuck. This is because we are seeing the situation in terms of the past, where we didn’t have the skills to deal with it. If we can see that currently we have more skills to address the situation, it can relax us enormously. The real problem is that we are attached to the Judgments of others if we make a mistake. One of the ways we can offset this is to talk about making mistakes so we can learn from the mistakes. If we have to be perfect, we cannot grow and learn from the situation. The challenge is to take our intuitive knowing and put it into action; sometimes our personalities don’t want to take direction from our higher Creative Being. Other times, we Experience doubt which disconnects us from our physical being, reinforcing the fear that we feel. The challenge is to acknowledge our fear and to take action anyway.


Some of us deny Physical Discernment by refusing to take actions because others would block us. We find it safer to hold out or remain passive in the face of the demands of others. We do this because we feel compromised and misunderstood so we seek to find more time to reflect on what is going on before we make a choice. Unfortunately, this strategy irritates the Security desire group who wishes to do something no matter what. Consequently, our passive stance sabotages the ability of others to interact with us in a Conscious and effective way. We have to learn to be in touch with our Soul’s impulse and take action when appropriate. The goal is to take action and not discount our ability to use our personality power when it is in Alignment with our soul’s direction. This is the way we able to see what our higher nature tells us to do and act on it rather than losing ourselves in our Safety Fears. We know these types to be Disarming.

Security Desires.  Individuals operating from Security Desires like to loose themselves in actions to resolve the concerns of others. In other words, these individuals take action to demonstrate that nothing is wrong. Because they are good at action, they tend to be indifferent to the potential issues that may come up in the process of doing something. Sometimes, this creates problems because they do not anticipate problems well. They resolve this dilemma by doing what they can when they can, believing that next time things will be better.

Some of us deny Physical Discernment by anticipating other people's reactions allowing us to build intricate flow charts. Being clever enough to out smart the Unconscious patterns of the passive resistor group, these controllers use actions like a sword to trap, clarify and dominate their adversaries. This approach apparently protects them from their insecurities, anxieties and pursuit of order. Physical Discernment requires that we breathe and let go of trying to control the situation and allow an impulse from our soul to be received before taking action. Typically, our Instinctive impulses for action drive us into premature action that sabotages the process for everyone but us. We have to learn to stop discounting our intuitive source and proceeding from our personality concerns. The goal is to own our higher knowing before we take action. This is the way we clarify which Security Desires get us in trouble so we don’t get caught in this trap. We know these types to be Dynamic.

What Do I Have To Learn To Be Physically Discerning?

Everything has its place and time, its natural expression. Ideas before their time generate Resistance. Ideas after their time miss their opportunities and fall flat. Therefore, it is critical that we use Physical Discernment to stretch our knowing beyond ourselves so that we recognize how we fit in the larger pattern. Physical Discernment, while anchored in our abdomen, is empowered by our Aliveness and contains the ability to see how our Aliveness is being received. It becomes important to learn to interconnect in this larger way to be able to successfully and appropriately time actions. This will empower the most effective and powerful approach with minimum effort.

Physical Discernment recognizes that we have a responsibility for our creative expression. It is a state of equilibrium where we are in touch and in tune with our creative essence. It requires no protection as it reflects what is so. Serving others with Physical Discernment brings a Consciousness to the use of space, time and energy. It clarifies what needs to be done comprehending automatically how each person can make their unique contribution. Physical Discernment operates with economy knowing exactly the amount of energy required to produce the desired results. When in an enlightened group, Physical Discernment is enhanced and further compounded by the capability of multiple people to see the same thing.

In Partnerships it takes time to sync our Physical Discernment up to each other. The more we dissolve our Pretenses and defenses and acknowledge the fire of our creative nature a purification process occurs that eventually produces Alignment. This is how Partners become aware on an inner level of each other’s hidden skills, knowledge and capacity. When Physical Discernment is a shared Experience you can initially see other people’s ability in regards to the larger purpose. The upside is that mutual projects can be implemented easier, the downside is that what you do together may not be well conceived and Thought out. This is due to the fact that Personality Detachment skills and Intuitive Discrimination skills must precede Physical Discernment skills to accomplish the best overall results.

How Do I Discount Physical Discernment In My life?

  1. Distant Defense Style individuals discount Physical Discernment by believing it is not possible to operate from an inner knowing and to be guided by our creative essence input. We react by looking for opportunities to play out our role-playing. We are defined by the willingness of others to include us in their process. We believe that the best we can do is operate from a knowledge-based reactive insight program we call Instinctive Impulses. Instinctive impulses are the results of our Fears and Personality Desires and, therefore, it is best not to reinforce them. Instead, just observe how our Instinctive Impulses get us into trouble. While others’ attachment to impulses does warn us when they have contrary Motives, it is not effective in helping them to act in Alignment with us. In fact, it sabotages their ability to be with us.

  2. DisarmingDefense Style individuals discount our actions becoming polarized between our Emotions and Thoughts. We doubt our ability to act in Alignment with our higher purpose. The result is an impasse where we may actually see all the problems but not feel able to do anything about them. By discounting our actions, we create a self-fulfilling prophecy that we can’t do better. As a result, we blame others for not listening to our advice and suggestions and taking action at the appropriate time.  When we take this position, we become self-preoccupied with our own issues and, therefore, are not able to help others in a way that would help clarify the situation. Instead, we tend to confuse the situation by looking like we are helping others when, in fact, we have no Intention in actually supporting others where they are.

  3. DynamicDefense Style individuals discount our Feelings, which prevent them from tuning into their Intuition and life contribution purpose. By disowning their Feelings, they disconnect themselves from their passion and power in order to intuitively align with others. This collapses our Connection to ourselves and generates a situation where we typically over use our intellect to pick apart any action plan. In losing our faith in the process, we end up not Trusting others to come forward and contribute effectively, producing that very effect. Our disconnection with others mirrors our own disconnection and we feel alone and isolated.

What Is The Cost Of Not Operating From Physical Discernment?

The largest cost is not fulfilling our life work. When we cannot perceive on an inner level the appropriateness and timing of any event we leave our Self open to the tide of mass opinion and the craziness of trends and fades that no one can predict. It is our Connection to our creative source that empowers us to know when it is right to take action and move forward. When we can’t act in Alignment with ourselves, how can we act in Alignment with others?

The second cost is not trusting our body to reveal its truth. This is typically because in our society we tend to disown the Feminine and not trust mother earth. Believing that we have to control and manipulate our world creates an artificial separation that denies our co-creative collaboration in it.

How Do We Heal Ourselves With Physical Discernment?

We heal ourselves with Physical Discernment by not separating our actions from our being or knowing. It is our task as Conscious Creative Beings to bring a sense of Unity to our Experience. By finding ways to combine our inner and outer Experiences, we can discover the Empowered Mutual Way that creates opportunities for all to participate. On a practical level, Physical Discernment begins with service. If we do not know who we are, we can learn about Physical Discernment by serving others that do. In this way we learn that we are more than our personality and begin to comprehend the power of our soul.

As soon as we begin to honor the power of our soul, we will learn to enhance Physical Discernment by serving our soul in the expression of our life work. Purification and clarity about our lifework enhances our ability to be Physically Discerning. The more we can focus and amplify our creative expression the more effective we will be in attracting others that will align to it. This will create a feedback loop that further enhances our own Physical Discernment as we begin to get support for our true inner knowing.

  1. Distant Defense Styles know we are healed when we no longer feel Resistance to our own way of operating and instead can choose to flow in the world in a way that feels more effortless. By honoring both action and observation in appropriate Balance, they grow and engage life.

  2. Dynamic Defense Styles move from an active stance of taking action to a passive stance of listening and being with others before taking action. They need to become more flexible and open.

  3. Disarming Defense Styles move from a passive stance of letting others determine what needs to be done to an active one. They need to become more Self structured, principle-driven, and concentrated in their focus.
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